How to help your demanding toddler cope with a newborn baby

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Bringing home a new baby doesn’t always run as smoothly as you hoped, especially when you already have a toddler in tow. Mothercraft nurse Chris Minogue shares seven tips to get you started.

“While this can be a confusing time for your older child, it’s important to normalise the situation as much as possible,” says Kinderling’s Mothercraft nurse, Chris Minogue.

“Your toddler can be thrown by the change in family dynamic and this will be reflected in their behaviour – both good and bad. A bit of planning and understanding and you can help ease everyone through this transition.”

Here are Chris’s top 7 tips:

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1. Be prepared

In the weeks leading up to baby’s arrival, be sure to spend time explaining what a new baby will mean to your toddler and the family dynamic.

2. No big changes

Don’t make any big changes six weeks before or after the baby arrives, advises Chris. Delay moving your toddler to a Big Bed, dropping a day sleep or even toilet training while everyone is adjusting to the newest member of the family.

3. Don’t blame the baby

Your new baby will disrupt your toddler’s routines and the existing family dynamic, but don’t blame these changes on the baby.  “Accept this as a stage in your child’s development,” says Chris.

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4. Take a drive past the hospital

A week before the baby’s due date, put your toddler in the car and drive past the hospital. “Explain what will happen the day the baby arrives; that daddy will be at home with the toddler and will give them a dinner and bath, and the next morning you’ll visit Mummy and the new baby in hospital,” says Chris.

5. Keep hospital visits short

Once baby arrives, keep your toddler’s visits to under 20 minutes. “Use your time with the toddler to ask them how they are. If baby is asleep ask your toddler if they’d like to say hello – but don’t force them if they say no,” says Chris. “If baby is awake and feeding, don’t put the baby down or stop what you’re doing. It’s important that your toddler begins to understand.”

6. Coming home

Babies take a lot of mum’s time so it’s important to make the most of those small windows of time throughout the day to spend time with your toddler. Like talking to them as you’re hanging out the washing, or playing Lego on the floor while the baby is feeding or sleeping.

7. Make a DIY ‘photo’ calendar

For the period of time, you expect to be away from home for the birth of your baby, create a visual calendar of events using photographs so your toddler can understand what each day will bring. For example, Tuesday is visit-mummy-in-hospital day, Thursday is go-grocery-shopping-with-grandma day, and Saturday is going-to-the-park-with-dad day.

This post was originally published on Kinderling Kids Radio. Download the Kinderling app for more great stories. 

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