“Devastated” Hilaria Baldwin shares details of her second trimester miscarriage

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Hilaria Baldwin has endured a miscarriage in the fourth month of her pregnancy. Details began to emerge yesterday, as the shattered mum of four appeared on Instagram to update her followers on her family’s sad news.

Content note: This story discusses miscarriage

“I’m really devastated”

Hilaria explained that she’d been to what she thought was a routine 20-week scan, when her doctor broke the awful news that the baby had no heartbeat.

It’s the second miscarriage Hilaria’s experienced this year.

“We are very sad to share that today we learned that our baby passed away at 4 months. We also want you to know that even though we are not ok right now, we will be,” she posted alongside a video of herself with her 6-year-old daughter Carmen, along with a plea to the paparazzi to keep their distance.

“We are so lucky with our 4 healthy babies — and we will never lose sight of this. I told Carmen and took this so I could send it to Alec. I guess this is a good way to share it with you too. I told her that this baby isn’t going to come after all … but we will try very hard to give her a little sister another time.”

Understandably distressed, Hilaria said she’s been totally blindsided by this turn of events.

“I’m really devastated right now,” she wrote. “I was not expecting this when I went to my scan today. I don’t know what else to say … I’m still in shock and don’t have this all quite clear.”

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We are very sad to share that today we learned that our baby passed away at 4 months. We also want you to know that even though we are not ok right now, we will be. We are so lucky with our 4 healthy babies—and we will never lose sight of this. I told Carmen and took this so I could send it to Alec. I guess this is a good way to share it with you too. I told her that this baby isn’t going to come after all…but we will try very hard to give her a little sister another time. I’m really devastated right now…I was not expecting this when I went to my scan today. I don’t know what else to say…I’m still in shock and don’t have this all quite clear. Please no paparazzi…that’s all I ask ❤️

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Sharing the journey

Hilaria and husband Alec Baldwin are also parents to 17-month-old Romeo, three-year-old Leonardo, and four-year-old Rafael.

Despite criticism Hilaria shared news of this pregnancy as soon as she found out, explaining that it was the only way to control the narrative – and avoid the press hounding her and speculating.

She was also keen to speak openly about the experience of early pregnancy with her followers, demystifying a traditionally secretive period women often endure alone. Aside from that, Hilaria didn’t want to pretend she was fine if she was feeling unwell – or if the worst did happen and she lost the baby. And – very sadly – that is what has happened. 

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Hilaria has now undergone a D&C procedure, and is at the very start of what she describes as a “healing journey”.

“Eyes swollen from crying, groggy from anaesthesia, crampy from the surgery … but I made it and I want you to know that I’m physically ok,” the fragile mum posted on Instagram after her operation.

“I’m grateful for my family, friends, doctors and nurses, and all of you who have held my hand through this difficult time. You have no idea how much this means to me.”

“One foot in front of the other … now I begin the healing journey.”

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Many people think being soft is being weak, but I’ve found true power in being vulnerable. When I decided to open up about my miscarriage I experienced this past spring, I was nervous to talk about it…but these hidden experiences in my life are only scary when I feel I cannot be open. We are taught to be so private with our fertility journeys…that we only share the strength and success…not the challenges. We must be “strong women,” silently suffering through any negativity we experience along the way. What I learned from opening up about losing my pregnancy is that I was so far from being alone. And being silent was just making me weak…even though I was taught that silence was “staying strong.” By choosing to be soft I became vulnerable, and through becoming vulnerable I found the truest strength. Not only within myself, but within our community. This image is one that I posted of me going into my d&c surgery this past spring. I’m excited to be partnering with @niveausa for their #rethinksoft campaign to help others see the power in soft and how it can actually unite us all #ad #niveausa

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