When I wanted to get pregnant I was secretly hoping we’d conceive a girl. It’s not that I didn’t want a boy, I just really loved the idea of coffee dates and window shopping with my adult daughter, like I’ve done with my own mum over the years. We did IVF, so there was no ‘secret make a girl sex position’ for us. And guess what?! We conceived two healthy, beautiful boys – and I couldn’t be happier now.
While I know I will always have their hearts and they mine (boys just adore their mums!) I also know we’ll never really fight like daughters and mums sometimes do. Now, I feel like fate knew I’d be better suited to mothering boys and I have girlfriends for coffee chats and window shopping, anyway.
If you’re trying for a baby now and feel like you’d like the odds stacked in some boy-favour, here are a few secret tricks. While none are guaranteed, you may as well give them a shot!
Oh, and if you feel a little girl would complete your family, here’s what to eat to conceive a daughter. But remember, no matter which sex your baby is, a healthy bub is the best gift regardless of gender.
1. Have deep, penetrating sex
According to the ‘Shettles method‘ – a theory by a doctor that’s been around for generations – male sperm are weaker but faster than their female counterparts. They are like sprint swimmers, whereas the sperm carrying the girl ‘X’ chromosome are the long distance champions. For this reason, sex that means the fast swimming boy sperm has less distance to travel to reach the prized egg is good.
Think deep, penetrating positions where the cervix is close, like doggy style, straddling your man and even standing up – some theorists believe gravity plays in the boy sperm’s favour here.
2. Eat potatoes and bananas
Serve yourself up another spud for dinner tonight as research published in the Reproductive BioMedicine Online Journal found that a woman’s diet that is high in sodium and potassium increased their chances of conceiving a boy. What else is high in potassium? Bananas, broccoli, spinach and brussels sprouts.
3. Avoid too much dairy
Male sperm prefer an alkaline vaginal environment, but whether or not eating a less acidic diet makes a difference is still open to debate. But it probably does no harm to tweak your diet.
Try eating less:
- Spicy foods that contain vinegar
- Citrus juices and fruits such as lemons
- Dairy foods like milk, cheese, youghurt and ice-cream.
And eat more:
- Bread, avocado, almonds, sprouts, wheatgrass, pine nuts and cherries.
4. Have sex NOW (well, when you are ovulating)!
Again, according to Dr Shettles, boy sperm doesn’t survive as long as girl sperm after ejaculation. This means if you have sex a few days before you ovulate, the female swimmers are more likely to reach the egg than the guys (who have died off). As such, if you are wanting to conceive a boy, it’s a good idea to jump in the sack on the day of ovulation – but no earlier than 24 hours prior to ovulation and no later than 12 hours post ovulation – sheesh, talk about a window.
5. Free him up
You know how your partner says he prefers boxers to briefs? Well, there’s a good reason to encourage him to keep going with the flow. According to some, the underwear a man wears can effect his sperm production. The theory is that boxer shorts are better for making male sperm, as the scrotum doesn’t get so warm, restricting the production of sperm. The opposite is true for tighter underwear (like jocks).
6. Oh yeah! Have an orgasm
Another old wives’ tale says that you should try to orgasm before your partner during sex. The thinking behind this is that an alkaline secretion is released into the vagina when you orgasm and this gives boy sperm an increased chance of survival. While it may not be backed up by science, there’s no harm in trying this one!
7. Eat some chocolate
Caffeine may help to give the ‘Y’ boy sperm a little kickstart in their race. Eating a piece of chocolate or downing a coffee prior to sex, therefore, might give his little male swimmers an energy boost.
8. Take evening primrose oil
Some gender selection theorists also claim that taking a daily supplement of evening primrose oil boosts the chances of conceiving a boy. While unproven, the oil is said to improve the health of your vaginal mucus, which is believed to be good for fertility.