Duchess Meghan urged not to follow in Kate’s footsteps when Baby Sussex arrives

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A mum and CEO has taken a leaf out of Keira Knightley’s book, imploring the Duchess of Sussex (that’s Meghan to us) to rethink her very first postpartum appearance.

Dear Meg

Traditionally – i.e. if you are Kate the Duchess of Cambridge – you tidy yourself up after the birth and pop out onto the steps of St Mary’s Hospital Lindo Wing to show the assembled media and the TV-viewing/web streaming public.


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Last year Keira Knightley very famously wrote what she had apparently hoped would be an essay in support of the Duchess of Cambridge’s postpartum perfection, but what was taken as a passionate critique. In the piece she touched on how traumatising childbirth can be, pointing out that Kate was probably feeling 274 times worse than she looked with her tidy blowout.

Chelsea Hirschhorn mum and CEO of parenting brand Fridababy has taken up where Keira left off, this time addressing the Duchess of Sussex in a marketing strategy an open letter posted on Instagram.

“Dear Royal Mom-To-Be,” Chelsea wrote. “You will soon give birth to one of the most anticipated babies in the world and like your princess predecessors, you’ll be expected to parade outside of the hospital in front of throngs of photographers to show off your new bundle of joy shortly after giving birth. You’ll smile, you’ll wave, you’ll be radiant, but between your legs will be a whole different story.”

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“If things are wrong and there is a lack of justice, and there is an inequality, then someone needs to say something.” — The Duchess of Sussex has become Vice-President of The @Queens_Commonwealth_Trust, of which Her Majesty The Queen is Patron, and The Duke of Sussex is President. In her new role, The Duchess will highlight the Trust's partnerships with young people across the Commonwealth, and in particular its work supporting women and girls. In celebration of International Women’s Day, Her Royal Highness joined a special panel discussion of female thought-leaders and activists convened by The Queen’s Commonwealth Trust, to discuss a range of issues affecting women today. #InternationalWomensDay #IWD2019 #QCT #QCTxIWD

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The royal fanny

Yup. She went there, just like Keira did, apparently trying to advocate for the royal vulva when honestly we’re not sure who asked her to.

“Sure your blowout will be perfect for your hospital step photo-op, but people will be opining on all the wrong things instead of having an honest conversation about what women go through during birth and immediately thereafter,” Chels continued.

“In my line of work we tackle the side of childbirth that won’t get as much airtime. Women are breaking down barriers left and right, so why is it still considered taboo to talk about the raw aftermath of what your body just went through?”

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“The aftermath is a mess”

To be clear, we’re all for talking about the realities of childbirth … but are also all for women talking about their vulvas, vaginas, labia etc in ways that make sense to them. I mean, it’s not likely that I’d stand in front of a generous chunk of the world’s population and talk about my vulva, but perhaps Chelsea’s right and I should just give it a whirl?

“Bringing a new life into the world usually starts with your vagina, and the aftermath is a mess,” Chelsea confides.

“The bleeding and swelling will linger, peeing will burn, and sitting like your old self will feel like a herculean feat. And if it’s a C-section, there’s a whole host of other issues to tend to.”

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"You do not have to be defined by your injury or disability. You may not realise or appreciate it yet, but do not underestimate the incredible impact you are having on those around you, by simply being yourself." — The Duke of Sussex, as he and The Duchess attended the #EndeavourFundAwards. The Duke presented Shaun with the Endeavour Fund Henry Worsley Award — swipe to watch Shaun’s story. Shaun Pascoe was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress after numerous tours around the world with the @RoyalAirForceUK Medical Emergency Response Team. He has now set up the Forces’ Sailing Charity @TurnToStarboard, providing more than 1200 sailing opportunities to service personnel and veterans. The Endeavour Fund Awards celebrate the achievements of wounded, injured and sick servicemen and women who have taken part in remarkable sporting and adventure challenges over the last year to help with their recovery.

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Change things up

Chelsea must have thought the relentless global criticism of Meghan needed a fresh injection of subject matter. #HasntSheSufferedEnough?

Chelsea then summoned up a hypothetical which saw Meg flashing her postpartum undies or simply letting Harry debut the couple’s baby while Meg stays in bed.

Honestly, we’re not hating the idea of the no-Meg baby reveal in some ways, if that’s what Meg wants … but also she birthed a whole human and every woman deserves the world’s praise when that happens. Why should Harry get all the attention?

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Dear Royal Mom-To-Be, You will soon give birth to one of the most anticipated babies in the world and like your princess predecessors, you’ll be expected to parade outside of the hospital in front of throngs of photographers to show off your new bundle of joy shortly after giving birth. You’ll smile, you’ll wave, you’ll be radiant, but between your legs will be a whole different story. Sure your blowout will be perfect for your hospital step photo-op, but people will be opining on all the wrong things instead of having an honest conversation about what women go through during birth and immediately thereafter. In my line of work we tackle the side of childbirth that won’t get as much airtime. Women are breaking down barriers left and right, so why is it still considered taboo to talk about the raw aftermath of what your body just went through? Spoiler alert: bringing a new life into the world usually starts with your vagina, and the aftermath is a mess. The bleeding and swelling will linger, peeing will burn, and sitting like your old self will feel like a herculean feat. And if it’s a C-section, there’s a whole host of other issues to tend to. So when the “big reveal” day arrives but you’re feeling like all the King’s horses and all the King’s men couldn’t put your vagina back together again – use this stage to do your part for all women who are about to embark on their first “fourth trimester.” Skip the pomp and circumstance of the baby parade. Let the headlines instead read: “Prince Brings Royal Baby Out Because Mom Is in Bed Sitting on a Pack of Ice.” And if you really can’t skip it, then at the very least flash us a glimpse of the mesh underwear underneath to keep it real. With your help we’ll have made some real progress. We’ll be rooting for you on your path to recovery and hope you take all the time you need – because raising a human requires feeling like a human. Trust us, your vagina (and baby) will thank you. Chelsea Hirschhorn, mom of 3+CEO

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What WE think is a brilliant idea (in an ideal world where it was even up to us to speak on someone else’s birth choice) is for the first glimpse of the royal baby to be a traditional messy and joy-filled shot of mum, dad and bub snuggling together in bed as mum recovers. Or a sweet Instagram video showing the family getting to know one another. (We’re totally fine with it if Meg wants to blow-dry her hair, btw!)

And we actually agree that the parade on the Lindo Wing’s steps really could be skipped … and that we’d rather see something a little more intimate and normal … if very royal.

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