“Oceans between us”: MAFS Zoe Hendrix struggles to leave her toddler daughter

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We feel you, Zo! Zoe Hendrix has just flown to Ethiopia, leaving her toddler daughter with ex-partner Alex Garner and she’s struggling with some big feelings about life and love.

“I am preparing to leave her”

Zoe’s headed off in search of her birth parents, and it’s obviously a bittersweet time for the mum-of-one. Not only is she recovering from her split with her Married At First Sight co-star, she’s leaving her daughter to head overseas for the very first time. 

She’s not taking 19-month-old Harper with her due to “health, safety and the emotional nature of the trip,” she told followers when discussing the trip a few weeks ago. “I am preparing to leave her in the loving care of her dad and her beautiful aunty.”

Zoe was born in Ethiopia and had a traumatic early childhood, news.com.au reports. “She was just five when her mother abandoned her and her brother, Micael, at an orphanage during the Eritrean — Ethiopian War. The siblings were adopted by a Tasmanian couple in 1995.”

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“I miss you already”

Yesterday, as she readied herself to board her flight, she shared an Instagram update pondering self-awareness and separation.

“How can you know who you are and where you’re going, if you never knew where you came from?” Zoe wrote. “You can’t. I’m fucking terrified but I’m ready for whatever comes.”

“I love you my darling Harpie, I’m reduced to tears sitting in the airport, knowing soon there will be oceans between us. I miss you already. I’ll return soon to you my darling. #wipeyourtears #faceyourfears

“Once in a lifetime” trip

Followers were super-supportive of the newly single mum’s struggle and sent plenty of well-wishes her way.

“She’s beautiful and she’ll be fine. This is a once in a lifetime and you need to do it. Can’t wait to read and see and hear all about it,” one wrote.

“Go find that missing piece of you Zoe. Sending all my love and prayers. Good luck,” another posted.

“Have the best trip Zoe, it is so normal to feel this way being away from your baby girl. Try to enjoy every 2nd. Keep us all updated. Stay safe,” someone else commented.

There were scores more kind messages, wishing the nervous mum a brilliant – and enlightening – journey.

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After the separation a lot of women have contacted me privately asking “how do you know when it's time leave your husband?” The power of that question has weighed on me and I have thought long and hard for an adequate answer that these women deserve. These exhausted women and mothers who have wearily walked their own relationship highs and lows, and who see me boarding a train, they think maybe they belong on too. The divorce train. The separation train. Or even more terrifying, the single mother train. But the unfortunate truth is, I didn't choose this path. I never bought a ticket. I never thought that the man I love so much would one day walk away. But he did. I never thought I would be alone taking care of our child 6 days a week in a suburb that no longer feels like home. But I do. I never thought I would find myself single in a queen size bed. But I do. So I can't tell them about how I knew, or the courage it took to walk away. But I can talk about the strength it takes to accept the unexpected path that life unwilling drags you down. I can tell them to accept that we all will face pain and adversity of one type or another. That people will hurt us, people will abandon us, and we must also acknowledge that we will hurt others. Whether we know or intend to or not. That often life will seem unfair and unjust (and sometimes plainly fucking cruel) but we must learn to weather the storm. We must learn to hold on to hope. Even on days we just wish to end the pain. We must learn to embrace our struggles and know that tremendous growth can come from our breakdown. In fact if we listen and take on the lessons, it can be a breakthrough. I can only tell these woman, that there is no courage where there is no fear. And that whatever choice you make, after the storm has subsided, you will find joy again. Your life might just be different to how you dreamt it to be. Have hope knowing that it’s not the end of the world if someone doesn’t love you anymore – it’s only the end of the world, if you don’t love you anymore. ❤️

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“I didn’t choose this path”

The trip comes just a few days after an emotional Zoe revealed that despite speculation, her split from Alex was something she’d never wanted.

“The unfortunate truth is, I didn’t choose this path. I never bought a ticket. I never thought that the man I loved so much would one day walk away. But he did. I never thought I would be alone taking care of our child six days a week in a suburb that no longer feels like home. But I do. I never thought I would find myself single in a queen size bed. But I do.”

It’s clear that Zoe is pushing forward, now determined to forge her own path and make a brilliant life for her and her wee daughter.


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