Why parenting twins is awesome. No, really!

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Most conversations about having twins tend to contain phrases like “Oh my god, it’s exhausting!” or “I don’t know how I’m still functioning!” and that’s because being a twin parent is really challenging.

I’ve said those phrases many times, and countless others just like them. Being a parent of one child is hard enough, but spreading yourself between two children the same age, each wanting the same thing from you 24 hours a day, is truly difficult.

But there are lots of wonderful things, too. As my twin boys grow older, I’ve noticed there are amazing things about having twins that not many people talk about – if you put the exhaustion and sheer relentlessness aside. 

Now that we’re past the night-waking and toilet training, parenting life is getting a little easier, which means I can actually breathe a little and enjoy my identical boys, whose personalities are emerging. They’re becoming more like real people and less like toddlers who continuously need some part of their body wiped. 

This is what I’m loving these days about being a twin parent:

They’re TWINS!

Twins might be hard work, but they’re amazing! Think about it: these two little beings that were created at the same time and have been by each other’s side constantly. There’s no other sibling relationship like it. From their secret twin language to the way they jump in and protect each other when one of them is arguing with another sibling or being disciplined by a parent, the twin relationship is something out of this world and has to be seen to be really understood.

Watching them bond

When my twins arrived eight weeks early and were separated in their humidicribs, I was really worried about their bond being broken. But if anything, their closeness nowadays is stronger than ever. Don’t get me wrong, they fight like cats and dogs sometimes, but more often than not, they’re like two little peas in a pod.

Baby twins asleep holding hands with dummies in their mouths

Their life together is awesome

My husband and I joke that we’re envious of the life our twins have together. These boys wake up side by side and instantly start playing together. They spend all day together eating and running amok and then go to bed together, talking right up until they fall asleep facing each other.

Sometimes I wonder if they’re mid-conversation when one of them drops off to sleep. Or do both of them fall silent and watch each other until their eyes droop shut? Can you imagine growing up with a constant playmate and best friend by your side, 24/7?

They’re hilarious

All little kids are funny but, when you have two of them, it’s double the laughs. Hearing these two little guys talk to each other and get deeply involved in their role play games is the best. And yep, they’ve already started playing tricks on us too, and boy do these two conspire!

The best club in the world

Only twin parents understand what it’s like to have twins, which can be a little isolating at times. Other times, it makes you feel like you’re in a very special club that only a sub-section of the world gets to join.

With identical twins happening entirely at random, we had no idea that twins would be on the cards for us, but the fact that we got them makes us feel like we’ve been chosen and blessed – even if it is a complete shit-storm some days.


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