“Everywhere you turn, another mom is judging your parenting choices”
Mum-shaming, eh? Without a doubt it’s one of our most read-about and riled-against topics and the push-back against mum-shaming has not gone unnoticed.
“If I had a nickel”
Sia Cooper who blogs at Diary of a Fit Mommy is taking the mum shamers to task. Not only is she over the judgement, she’s pointing out that it doesn’t matter which way your parenting choices swing, someone will be waiting in the wings to shout you down.
“If I had a nickel for every time I’ve been called a “bad mom,” I would be soooo rich!” Sia wrote on her Instagram account, alongside an exaggerated and satirical of her in full bad mum flight with her kids.
“It seems almost impossible to be a textbook or politically correct good mom these days because everywhere you turn another mom is judging your parenting choices.”
Read more about mummy shaming:
- Claire Foy says parenting would be MUCH easier without mummy shamers
- Smooch shamed! Olivia Wilde kissed her son on the lips and people got angry
- Kim Kardashian mum-shamed after son Saint is hospitalised with pneumonia
Shame on you
Sia goes on to explain some of the things perfect strangers have called her out on, via social media. They include, but are not limited to: working out when pregnant, using tinned foods, caring about her looks, sometimes drinking wine, having tattoos, allowing her kids to eat treats, having boobs, co-sleeping, running a business … we could go on, but you get the picture.
(Somewhere in there is probably “breathing” and “pooping” because honestly there’s no pleasing some people!)
Sia reckons it’s a pretty terrible move to judge another mum, and asserts that the shamers are the true baddies in this whole catastrophe.
“I’ve learned that the true “bad moms” out there are the ones who constantly tear other moms down by judging them. Those moms are the ones who are truly insecure and have strong feelings of inadequacy because why else would they do that?”
Why indeed? We think she’s on to something.
“Doing the best we can”
In a MUCH more perfect world, Sia says a little compassion, acceptance and support would go a very long way.
“There’s no one right way to parent or to be a mom. We all are running in the same race and doing the best that we can. Motherhood is not a one size fits all-what works for one family may not work for the next. So who are we to judge another mom’s choices or reasoning?”
“Being a mom is hard enough and if all the following make me a ‘bad mom’ then I’ll gladly wear it proudly! Here’s to all the bad moms out there!”
It’s a thing
Mummy shaming is something that almost every parent-with-a-profile has fallen prey to, usually when they’re just merrily going about their day and want to share the happy feels about their kid/s.
Chrissy Teigen was shamed for … the way she stacked her trolley when shopping with Luna, the way she fastened Luna’s car seat, the way she played with her toddler daughter and even the way she conceived her kids. Hilary Duff was shamed for … kissing her son. Not even kidding. Pink was shamed for … cooking with her kids.
And that’s just for starters! Here’s hoping Sia’s push for a global movement against shaming mums gains momentum, and this madness gets taken down a notch or two.