Ask any parent of small children and they’ll tell you about the daily struggle that’s getting their little ones to get their kids to eat healthily. We try and sneak the good stuff into their meals, resort to bribes or end up having a Mexican standoff with our fussy eaters just to get them to eat a mouthful. But then I realised I only have myself to blame.
It all started out so well
My eldest son was the most fantastic eater when he was really little. He ate any vegetable you gave him and shoved broccoli into his mouth by the handful. Then he learned to speak and assert himself, and we (unfortunately) exposed him to a wider range of ‘treat’ foods. After tasting hot chips, sugary biscuits, lollies, hot dogs and chocolate, broccoli got the boot. He’s seven now and only eats a couple of different vegetables and fruit, generally after I’ve had to enforce it.
His younger brothers both eat pretty well, as I’ve strived to make mealtimes easier by only offering the vegetables I know my eldest will eat, I can see their taste for vegetables diminishing to include fewer and fewer varieties too.
So where did it all go wrong?
The missing link?
There must be a reason why so many parents are stuck fighting this same battle with their kids. Which got me thinking, I bet parents who only eat healthy foods don’t have this same problem – and I think the reason for this is two-fold:
- They see their parents only eating healthy food, so follow their example
- There is little to no junk food in the house, so their kids have no other option
Those tricky treats
I’m a firm believer in balance and am not opposed to the occasional treat, but when I stopped to think about it, those ‘sometimes’ foods had slowly become ‘regular’ foods.
It’s no wonder my son kicks up a fuss about eating a salad when there is a chocolate yoghurt in the fridge he’d much rather eat. Or when I try to feed him carrot sticks as a snack instead of the mini-packet of salty biscuits he can see calling out to him from the pantry. In our efforts to save time or give our kids a treat, we’ve managed to let the situation get out of control.
MORE Fussy Eating
When did we become restaurant regulars?
As a society we also eat out or get takeaway way more than previous generations. As a kid, we’d have to wait until it was someone’s birthday before we’d get to eat out. But what was once something special for me, has become commonplace for my kids. They don’t view dinner at a restaurant or lunch at a cafe as a treat because we take them out so often. And what do they eat when you go out? Anything on the ‘kids menu’ and that is mostly chips, pizza, nuggets, ice-cream and milkshakes.
Leading by example
I love vegetables and all kinds of healthy food, but like most busy and sleep-deprived parents I reach for the ‘naughty’ foods to fill – and pick – me up. I’ve realised my own dietary habits have become worse than I’d like to admit. I’m so busy juggling kids and work that it’s often easier to order a pizza rather than make one from scratch. Not only are the kids eating these same foods, but they are watching their parents eat unhealthily too. How can I expect them to do as I say and not what I do?
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Is it time to ditch the junk altogether?
Nope, I’m not saying that at all. In addition to being a good role model for your kids, I think the solution is to go back to making treats exactly that – something that you save for special occasions. Don’t stock your cupboards with processed junk, opt for healthier convenient options, try to make your own freezable snacks where possible, so you not only know exactly what goes into them but you’ll also have snacks on hand for those hectic days.
I know it’s hard when both parents are working and making meals is a chore, but if you can plan ahead and shop online for groceries then you’ll be less inclined to eat out or offer up something unhealthy.
A wake-up call
Next time your child is turning their nose up at their veggies, stop and take the time to question what your own eating habits are like around them. What kinds of foods are you storing in your fridge and pantry? You – like me – might be surprised at just how unhealthy they’ve become.
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