Jenn Kish explains on her Facebook page, Sprinkles In My Closet, how she finds time for her partner at the end of the day.
After a hectic day of running around after babies and toddlers, changing nappies, making snacks, dealing with tantrums, and toilet training, there’s very little time or energy for anything else. So, come evening, when your partner arrives home, it can be difficult to carve out any quality time to share a moment or conversation.
“It’s easy to let him slip to the back burner while you give every bit of energy away to those little ones who rely on you to meet their every need,” says Jenn Kish, on her Facebook page, Sprinkles In My Closet.
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However, Jenn has found a solution that satisfies both her and her partner. At the end of the day, when he walks through the door, they push the couches together and create a cosy space to share and give each other the attention they need.
“If we are going to collapse from exhaustion at least we can do that together. Whether we are watching a movie, staring at our phones or having a conversation, we do it like this,” says Jenn. “And I love it.”
Your husband may not have spent his day feeding, changing nappies, cleaning up the mess and picking up toys but he’s probably equally as exhausted and wanting to share some time with you. Simply by making a designated area to be with her partner, Jenn can not only do exactly that, but she can also completely and physically relax while she’s doing it.
Not your cup of tea?
The post was generally met with great enthusiasm, however, for one commenter, this is not the answer. “I really struggle with this, I’m not really a touchy-feely person and my husband is,” she says. “By the end of the day I just want to be left alone and he wants to be close. We finally compromised, and he gives me thirty minutes after the kids are in bed to take a breather, then it’s our time.”
Everybody is different, and every relationship is different. But finding that time at the end of the day is important for you both to touch base and re-connect. As Jenn says, “You were his first, momma. So tonight, push the couches together.”