Content warning: This post discusses the loss of a baby: Singer Selena Gomez’s mum, Mandy Teefey, has shared a little more about the very sad experience of losing a baby.
Posting on the 18th December, six years after she endured her miscarriage, Mandy shared some photos and opened up a little about the pain of this terrible loss. She thanked fans for their gestures of sympathy and kind words.
Mandy and husband Brian had called their baby Scarlett, and her post explained their daughter was still a hugely important part of their family, and always with them.
Mandy and Selena
Mandy’s also mum to four-year-old Grace, and she went on to describe a ritual their family had undertaken this year in memory of their daughter.
“Thank you to all the fans who honored our Scarlett yesterday. December 17th will never be the same, but we decided to celebrate her by writing her letters on red balloons and releasing them,” Mandy wrote.
“She was there in spirit as always. A mom’s love for their children is pretty fierce. In order of my girls, Selena, Scarlett and Gracie. Family is what matters, blood or not.”
“I came home to Brian and Gracie to send our love to Scarlett. Fans, I want you to know you are family because I have a huge family and you are the only ones who remember! XO forever.”
Women like Mandy opening up about their experiences helps us to better understand the pain of miscarriage, and helps others who have endured the loss of a baby feel less alone. It’s also pretty amazing that Selena’s young fans have (generally) been so sensitive to the family’s sadness.
I’m very aware some of my fans had noticed I was laying low for part of the summer and questioning why I wasn’t promoting my new music, which I was extremely proud of. So I found out I needed to get a kidney transplant due to my Lupus and was recovering. It was what I needed to do for my overall health. I honestly look forward to sharing with you, soon my journey through these past several months as I have always wanted to do with you. Until then I want to publicly thank my family and incredible team of doctors for everything they have done for me prior to and post-surgery. And finally, there aren’t words to describe how I can possibly thank my beautiful friend Francia Raisa. She gave me the ultimate gift and sacrifice by donating her kidney to me. I am incredibly blessed. I love you so much sis. Lupus continues to be very misunderstood but progress is being made. For more information regarding Lupus please go to the Lupus Research Alliance website: www.lupusresearch.org/ -by grace through faith
Mid-year, Mandy supported her eldest daughter through a kidney transplant. Selena’s bestie, The Secret Life of the American Teenager star Francia Raisa, donated her kidney to save her buddy’s life.
“There aren’t words to describe how I can possibly thank my beautiful friend Francia Raisa,” Selena said at the time. “She gave me the ultimate gift and sacrifice by donating her kidney to me. I am incredibly blessed. I love you so much.”
It’s fair to say the family has had a stressful, but possibly galvanising year and it’s also proof that no matter how high-profile or privileged you may be, there are still hard-won challenges to struggle through.
If you’ve experienced a miscarriage or the loss of a child, there is advice and support at hand. Get in touch with the people at SANDS as soon as you can. They can help you navigate this terrible time and help you better deal what you’re going through. Please don’t go it alone.
The SANDS helpline is available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year (including Christmas Day) by dialling 1300 072 637.