Choosing your baby’s name is exciting and a big deal, but do you tell people before or after the birth? We’ve broken down the pros and cons of making the big reveal beforehand to help you make your decision.
You will get feedback
Pro – It could be quite helpful to get other opinions, especially if you’re undecided and have a few favourite options on your shortlist. Saying the name out loud to others might also help you make up your mind or point out something you hadn’t thought of and live to regret – such as their name rhyming with genitals.
Con – You could get really negative reactions, even if they’re only based on personal opinions. Once they’re out there they could be quite hard to ignore, and as a result you might start doubting your name choice. For example, someone might have had a dog or went to school with a jerk of the same name, or just not understand your pick at all – particularly if the name is unusual or unique in any way.
If people only find out the name once the baby is born they’re less likely to say they hate it – and if they do, too bad! By then you’ve followed through with your personal decision without being negatively influenced and in time they’ll probably come to like the name anyway.
It can help with bonding
Pro – Similar to knowing the sex prior, many mothers find that thinking of their baby as an already named entity and calling them by name to others helps them bond with their bub, both in the womb and once they’re born.
Con – You may spend the whole pregnancy calling your bub by name, shouting it from the rooftops to all your family and friends only to discover that when you give birth your baby doesn’t look like a Charlie at all. Now to let everyone know you’ve dropped Charlie like a sack of potatoes and gone with Alfie instead. #awkward
You can claim the name
Pro – This might be helpful if you have a close friend or family member due around the same time who you feel might choose the same name. First dibs! Right?
Con – There is one less surprise to tell people once the baby arrives. Because unless you choose a unisex name and don’t reveal the gender, people will know both the sex and name prior to the birth – usually two of the biggest reveals once the baby is here.
You also run the risk of announcing the name to a pregnant friend who gives zero hoots about social protocol and steals your baby name anyway. Especially upsetting if it is a one-of-a-kind name (do they still exist?) and they deliver first!
To tell or not to tell then?
Either way, there is no right or wrong way to announce your baby’s name. The choice is yours and as long as you don’t call them something deliberately cruel or crazy (there are laws against that), whatever you decide to do just go for it!
Did you announce your baby’s name before they were born?