When popular Facebook page Humans of New York cornered stars on the Met Gala red carpet, asking them to spill the beans about their lives, Ryan Reynolds said wife Blake Lively made his a whole lot better.
Actual relationship goals
Obviously that phrase “relationship goals” is used WAY too often, but when it comes to this couple – who are parents to two little girls – it genuinely seems to be warranted.
Not only do they seem supremely happy together, they seem intent on doing the hard work required to be great humans – and taking nothing for granted.
They spend a lot of time expressing their appreciation of one another, balance the privacy of their children with their media obligations AND constantly seem to be reaching for growth rather than resting on their celebrity laurels. It’s all pretty impressive.
Strength to strength
When interviewed, they generally outline each other’s strengths, touch on personal challenges and broach meaningful topics that make the most of the air time they’re given.
On this particular occasion, Ryan managed to reveal Blake’s admirable approach to life, simultaneously giving readers something significant to ponder (and perhaps some impetus to work harder on their own responses to tricky things.)
It’s not often that carefully managed A list stars push beyond the usual ROTE script and standard piffle to utter something genuine, inspiring and motivating. It’s kind of compelling when they do.
Respond with empathy
Needless to say fans (and even non-fans) are noticing – and responding super favourably, too. Here’s what Ryan said about Blake:
“She always responds with empathy. She meets anger with empathy. She meets hate with empathy. She’ll take the time to imagine what happened to a person when they were five or six years old. And she’s made me a more empathetic person. I had a very fractured relationship with my father. Before he died, she made me remember things I didn’t want to remember. She made me remember the good times.”
Not only did he dive deep and talk about something that was obviously really painful, he talked about holding onto anger and how Blake helped him find a way to begin resolving some pretty complicated feelings about his dad. Genuinely big and meaningful, practical stuff.
Taking a moment
These are very relatable struggles and his “remember the good times” and “empathy first” reveals are approaches we can all use in our own lives. Basically he took his moment on the red carpet to reflect something great back onto his cute wife – and all of us.
Remember the good times, indeed.
We love these guys.