Mum gets real on hazy newborn days: “I haven’t washed my hair in over a week”

Rachel Brathen

Yoga Girl’s Rachel Brathen had a baby just over two weeks ago, and as adorable as tiny Lea Luna is, it’s her mum’s relatable share on the chaos and comfort of life with a newborn that’s caught the internet’s attention.

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Life with a 15-day old! I haven't washed my hair in over a week. I live in this braid now. I don't wear shirts because it slows down baby-to-boob time and every item of clothing I own is stained with either breast milk or throw-up. Oh, and I smell. It doesn't matter how much I shower – I'm sweating like a maniac. I even traded in my organic lavender-scented deodorant for Dennis' crazy chemical man-deodorant but it's not much help. The house is a permanent mess and my shoulders ache from carrying baby around and yesterday we went for a long walk and on the way home she cried in the car and then I started crying and couldn't stop for a whole 30 minutes (she stopped after 5). We are only eating take-out for dinner and if it wasn't for juice and smoothie deliveries from @island.yoga and @nourish.aruba I don't think I would have ingested a single vegetable since Lea was born. I can't eat chocolate because it makes her gassy and I'm craving a cold glass of wine but I'm scared to have a sip because I don't know what's ok and what isn't so I'm just permanently craving things I can't have. We are in a sleepy haze of onesies and diapers and blankies but even when things are hard and I look around and wonder how life became all of this… All I have to do is smell the top of her little head for it all to get covered with a layer of magic moon dust. The most mundane moments with this girl are the most beautiful of my entire life. #lealuna

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Stains, spit-up and smells

Perception of this newborn baby bubble is often very different to reality, as Rachel can attest.

“Life with a 15-day old! I haven’t washed my hair in over a week. I live in this braid now. I don’t wear shirts because it slows down baby-to-boob time and every item of clothing I own is stained with either breast milk or throw-up,” she confessed.

“Oh, and I smell. It doesn’t matter how much I shower – I’m sweating like a maniac. I even traded in my organic lavender-scented deodorant for Dennis’ crazy chemical man-deodorant but it’s not much help.”

Domestic chaos

It’s not just Rachel that’s feeling a little bumped up around the edges, domestic life has taken a back seat as this fresh little human’s needs are prioritised.

“The house is a permanent mess and my shoulders ache from carrying baby around and yesterday we went for a long walk and on the way home she cried in the car and then I started crying and couldn’t stop for a whole 30 minutes (she stopped after 5),” Rachel wrote.

Cravings and denial

“We are only eating take-out for dinner and if it wasn’t for juice and smoothie deliveries… I don’t think I would have ingested a single vegetable since Lea was born,” she confessed.

And speaking of nutrition, Rachel’s finding the treat-vs-mumming struggle to be frustratingly real.

“I can’t eat chocolate because it makes her gassy and I’m craving a cold glass of wine but I’m scared to have a sip because I don’t know what’s okay and what isn’t so I’m just permanently craving things I can’t have,” the new mum posted.

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10 days post partum! This body. THIS BODY. I'm in awe. I breastfeed our baby angel and can literally feel my uterus contracting, slowly moving back to its original shape. Every detail of this experience, from each month of pregnancy all through birth is created with such genius and is absolutely divine. Did you know that when the baby turns to go down the birth canal during labor, the intestines twist and the digestive system activates for the first time? Or when the baby's head tilts back right as it passes the pubic bone it opens the esophagus so baby can take his or her very first breath? It's genius. Everything connects. I gave birth ten days ago and feel so, so good. I'm not bleeding, I'm not in pain and have lots of energy. I know this is not the case for everyone – I feel very blessed and so, so grateful. Luckily I didn't tear during labor and feel beyond thankful to have had a midwife who knew the importance of a slow, gentle delivery (I'll be sharing full birth story soon w more details). I'm fairly certain yoga has played a big part in how fast my body is feeling like "normal" after pregnancy and I can't wait to get back to my mat! Rule of thumb is six weeks but I will be rolling out my mat for some super gentle stretches and breath work this week – if Lea allows☺️ All in all, I'm so happy to be in this next phase. Happy to not be pregnant anymore. Happy to have this girl in my arms. And starting to forget just how painful that 24-hour labor actually was…🙈🙈🙈 #okmaybewellhaveasecondonesomeday #lealuna #10dayspostpartum #motherhood #love

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“Magic moon dust” moments

This exhausted mum goes on to capture the paradox of parenting pretty perfectly.

“We are in a sleepy haze of onesies and diapers and blankies but even when things are hard and I look around and wonder how life became all of this… All I have to do is smell the top of her little head for it all to get covered with a layer of magic moon dust,” Rachel wrote.

“The most mundane moments with this girl are the most beautiful of my entire life,” she summed-up.

We love this post because it really does capture the overwhelming, overjoyed reality of life with a fresh, tiny person. Perhaps you can relate?!

Are you in the magical moon dust haze at the moment? Do you remember these exhausting and special days?

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