“Spread really thin”
“My home and my heart feel really full right now, in the best way,” Kim said in a brand new cover feature for the April issue of Elle magazine.
She explained that adding just one more baby would be her limit, and that she’s conscious of not side-lining her relationship with Kanye West (her husband and her children’s father.)
“I don’t think I could handle more than that. My time is spread really thin. And I think it’s important that in all couples, the mom gives the husband as much attention as the kids.”
We’re SURE that the husband-wife attention-giving goes both ways. * nods *
Kim and Kanye’s newborn, Chicago, was born with the help of a “surrogate”, although Kim’s now actively correcting the term she used throughout her pregnancy to stress that the baby girl is 100% her and Kanye’s biological child.
“I refer to her as a surrogate, but it’s completely my and Kanye’s DNA, so technically that’s called a gestational carrier. A surrogate is when they use the husband’s sperm and the surrogate’s egg.”
After suffering from placenta accreta during her pregnancies with North and Saint, Kim opted for a gestational carrier, advised that the condition would arise again and could be life threatening. At best it could prove incredibly traumatic.
“After giving birth, your placenta is supposed to come out,” Kim elaborated. “But mine was stuck. That’s what women usually die from in childbirth—you haemorrhage and bleed to death and they can’t stop it.”
“To get it out—it’s so disgusting—the doctor had to stick his whole arm in me and scrape it off. It was the most painful. To this day, if you mention [the procedure to Kim’s mum Kris Jenner, who was present at the time], she’ll cry. It was traumatic.”
“Pick the healthiest one”
The couple worked with an agency to find the right woman to carry their child, and Kim says she knew straight away that her carrier was the “right” one. She also explained why they chose to have a baby girl.
“It was a feeling. You know when you can trust someone.”
“It’s a really tricky thing,” Kim explained of selecting which embryo to implant. “What sex do you put in? I just said, ‘Which one is the healthiest? Pick the healthiest one,’ and that was a girl.”
Eat the doughnuts
The Keeping Up With The Kardashians star says she tried not to be too controlling when it came to her carrier’s pregnancy care.
“I straight-up told her, ‘Look, I ate doughnuts every single day. If you want doughnuts and ice cream, go for it. Do whatever you feel. I’m not going to be picky like that. That’s just ridiculous.’”
Her only requests were that the baby be born in LA “where all my babies were delivered, and for her to use my doctor. She was totally comfortable with that.”
“As much as I hated [being pregnant], I still wished I could have done it on my own. The control is hard at the beginning. Once you let that go, it’s the best experience. I would recommend surrogacy for anybody.”
On the home front, Kim admits she’s ridiculously organised and needs things clear and clutter-free to function properly.
“If things aren’t organized, I flip out. My kids’ clothes have their name ironed into them on little labels. I know where everything is, and I. Do. Not. Lose. Things.”
That said, her children’s playroom is the exception to this rule. North (also known as Northy-Lou), Saint (that’s Sainty-Boo), and Chicago West (Chi) have the freedom to go nuts and make a mess in their own space.
“My life is chaotic, so my home is super simple,” Kim reasons. “Everything has to be clean. No clutter.”
“I can’t have a full phone. At the end of the day, I delete everything that’s not a current conversation. If I need some information, then I keep it. If not, it has to be deleted. I can’t see too much noise.”