“The 10 most important things I’ve learnt since losing my son”

Richard Pringle and son Hughie

UK dad Richard Pringle is grieving the loss of his 3-year-old son Hughie, who died just over a year ago. Richard has shared a list of parenting life-lessons, as a tribute to his little boy, and it’s a reminder of what matters most.

Posted by Richard Pringle on Monday, 12 September 2016

In memory of Hughie

Richard explained that Hughie had some ongoing health issues, but that he and wife Jen were optimistic about his future. (The couple have two beautiful daughters, Hettie and Hennie, too.)

“[Hughie] had a brain condition, but was doing so well. There was only a 5 percent chance of a bleed but unfortunately that 5 percent chance happened last year and he didn’t survive,” he told The Mirror. “He was soft, gentle, caring and so loveable. He made the boring things fun. He made everything fun. In three short years he left us with a lifetime of the most incredible memories.”

Life lessons

This great dad is hoping he can make a difference to the lives of other families, as he comes to terms with life without his own gorgeous little boy. He’s taken to Facebook, sharing an emotional post about the parenting choices that matter most. Richard’s post is being shared widely across the globe, as parents and carers count their blessings and are reminded to slow down and make the most of precious moments with their kids.

❤️❤️The 10 Most Important Things I've Learnt Since Losing My Son 🙏1. You can never ever kiss and love too much. 2….

Posted by Richard Pringle on Wednesday, 23 August 2017

A tribute to Hughie

Richard titled his post The 10 Most Important Things I’ve Learnt Since Losing My Son and he’s reflected on life with Hughie – to compile what is a emotional and wise manifesto:

1. You can never ever kiss and love too much.

2. You always have time. Stop what you’re doing and play, even if it’s just for a minute. Nothing’s that important that it can’t wait.

3. Take as many photos and record as many videos as humanly possible. One day that might be all you have.

4. Don’t spend money, spend time. You think what you spend matters? It doesn’t. What you do matters. Jump in puddles, go for walks. Swim in the sea, build a camp and have fun. That’s all they want. I can’t remember what we bought Hughie I can only remember what we did.

5. Sing. Sing songs together. My happiest memories are of Hughie sitting on my shoulders or sitting next to me in the car singing our favourite songs. Memories are created in music.

6. Cherish the simplest of things. Night times, bedtimes, reading stories. Dinners together. Lazy Sundays. Cherish the simplest of times. They are what I miss the most. Don’t let those special times pass you by unnoticed.

7. Always kiss those you love goodbye and if you forget, go back and kiss them. You never know if it’s the last time you’ll get the chance.

8. Make boring things fun. Shopping trips, car journeys, walking to the shops. Be silly, tell jokes, laugh, smile and enjoy yourselves. They’re only chores if you treat them like that. Life is too short not to have fun.

9. Keep a journal. Write down everything your little ones do that lights up your world. The funny things they say, the cute things they do. We only started doing this after we lost Hughie. We wanted to remember everything. Now we do it for Hettie and we will for Hennie too. You’ll have these memories written down forever and when your older you can look back and cherish every moment.

10. If you have your children with you. To kiss goodnight. To have breakfast with. To walk to school. To take to university. To watch get married. You are blessed. Never ever forget that.

 

It’s heartbreaking that Richard, Jen, Hettie and Hennie are enduring the loss of their little guy, but we’re inspired by his push to make a difference to the lives of others.

We’ll certainly be sharing his words, far and wide.

Another one of my favourite memories of Hughie is maybe a bit of a general one but this pic just perfectly sums it up….

Posted by Richard Pringle on Sunday, 11 September 2016

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