Pink’s revealed some really interesting info about how she and husband Carey Hart are raising their two children, and it’s sparking lots of discussion. It all started with a revelation from the pair’s eldest child …
Pop star, Pink is mum to a 6-year-old daughter, Willow, and a 11-month-old son, Jameson. She says an inclusive approach to gender identity has been a long time coming, and she revealed she’s a total fan of making room for everyone.
“I was in a school and the bathroom outside the kindergarten said: ‘Gender Neutral – anybody’, and it was a drawing of many different shapes,” Pink told The People.
“I took a picture of it and I wrote: ‘Progress’. I thought that was awesome. I love that kids are having this conversation.”
If you’re not quite sure about the language surrounding gender, let us catch you up. “Gender neutral” means not showing a bias for any gender – so it’s not about men or women, but rather about ALL people. It’s an inclusive term. Great, right? Nothing to freak out about at all.
No labels, please
In an approach that seems true-to-form, the singer and mum-of-two says she’s trying to focus on her kids’ personalities and interests, rather than slotting into lazy or limiting stereotypes.
“We are a very label-less household,” she explained. “Last week Willow told me she is going to marry an African woman. I was like: ‘Great, can you teach me how to make African food?’ And she’s like: ‘Sure mama, and we are going to live with you while our house is getting ready.”
She admits that Willow’s marriage admission came as a bit of a surprise, but chatter turned to acceptance and practicalities fairly quickly.
“I was like ‘what the f***, who are you?! Who is paying for this by the way?’” the singer laughed.
We love the way Pink is approaching raising her kids, and the fact that it’s sparking important discussion about identity and equality – even in small children.
When you think about it, these early years are the very best time to bust down limiting expectations and let children grow into themselves.
Gender and identity 101
While we’ve got you, let’s go over this language to clarify some terms and language that many find confusing or worrying, in case that is helpful.
Note that “sexual orientation”, “sex” and “gender identity” are all separate concepts.
- “Sexual orientation” – describes a person’s romantic and/or sexual attraction.
- “Sex” means male or female. This designation is based on biological characteristics such as chromosomes, genitals, hormones and neurobiology. That said, some people have male and female characteristics, or neither male nor female characteristics. There’s a spectrum when it comes to “sex”.
- “Gender” describes the characteristics that a society or culture decides are masculine or feminine.
- “Gender neutral” means to not show a bias for any particular “gender”.
- “Gender-neutral parenting” avoids the usual gender stereotypes (pink for girls, blue for boys, dolls for girls, trucks for boys – for instance) and allows children to express themselves and develop according to their own interests.
There’s a lot of misinformation swirling about many of these terms, but when you drill down to the heart of it, it’s all about respecting one another and allowing for diversity and acceptance.