Pink responds perfectly when her daughter says ‘I’m the ugliest girl I know’

Singer Pink and family at VMAs

While there was much chatter about Taylor Swift’s controversial video launch at yesterday’s Video Music Awards (VMAs) it was mum-of-two Pink who was the actual absolute star of the show. 

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“We don’t change”

Pink, husband Carey Hart and daughter Willow attended the VMAs together in matchy-matchy, leaving baby Jameson at home (see pic below! Naw!) The trio wore coordinating suits, delighting fans with their power dressing – and their hat-tip to gender-neutral style.

The excellent moves didn’t stop there, though. Accepting her Video Vanguard Award, Pink took the opportunity to send a message about strength, diversity and self-acceptance to her daughter and it’s truly resonating with everyone who hears it.

In her VMAs speech, Pink explained that some heartbreaking words tumbled from her daughter’s lips recently. She worked hard to process what Willow said, then fought back in the kind of sensible-yet-inspirational mama bear style we’ve come to expect from her.

Her perfect response to Willow comprised the bulk of her award acceptance speech, because it’s really a message to the world.

“We don’t change”

The full transcript is below, because it really needs to experienced in its entirety to pack the full punch.

That said, we SUPER LOVED the following lines about responding to criticism and shaming by encouraging the critics to open their eyes a little more, and see that diversity and difference is what makes us great.

“We don’t change. We take the gravel and the shell and we make a pearl. And we help other people to change so they can see more kinds of beauty,” Pink said.

Not only is this a message that bears repeating to our daughters and sons, it’s an ethos we should all be taking on board.  It’s also worth noting that this is what Willow’s face looked like when her mum told her she loved her in front of millions of people. #StinkinAdorable


Singer Pink's daughter Willow

Pink’s VMA acceptance speech 

I know I don’t have a lot of time, but if I may tell you a quick story. Recently, I was driving my daughter to school and she said to me, out of the blue, ‘Mama?’ I said, ‘Yes, baby?’ She said, ‘I’m the ugliest girl I know.’ And I said, ‘Huh?’ And she was like, ‘Yeah, I look like a boy with long hair.’ And my brain went to, ‘Oh my god, you’re six. Why? Where is this coming from? Who said this? Can I kick a 6-year-old’s ass, like what?’

But I didn’t say anything. Instead I went home and I made a Powerpoint presentation for her. And in that presentation were androgynous rockstars and artists that live their truth, are probably made fun of every day of their life, and carry on, wave their flag and inspire the rest of us. And these are artists like Michael Jackson and David Bowie and Freddie Mercury and Annie Lennox and Prince and Janis Joplin and George Michael, Elton John, so many artists — her eyes glazed over. But then I said, ‘You know, I really want to know why you feel this way about yourself.’ And she said, ‘Well I look like a boy,’ and I said, ‘Well what do you think I look like?’ And she said, ‘Well you’re beautiful.’ And I was like, ‘Well, thanks. But when people make fun of me, that’s what they use. They say I look like a boy or I’m too masculine or I have too many opinions, my body is too strong.’

And I said to her, ‘Do you see me growing my hair?’ She said, ‘No, mama.’ I said, ‘Do you see me changing my body?’ ‘No, mama.’ ‘Do you see me changing the way I present myself to the world?’ ‘No, mama.’ ‘Do you see me selling out arenas all over the world?’ ‘Yes, Mama.’ ‘OK! So, baby girl. We don’t change. We take the gravel and the shell and we make a pearl. And we help other people to change so they can see more kinds of beauty.’

And to all the artists here, I’m so inspired by all of you. Thank you for being your true selves and for lighting the way for us. I’m so inspired by you guys. There’s so much rad shit happening in music. And keep doing it. Keep shining for the rest of us to see.

And you, my darling girl, are beautiful, and I love you.  – PiNK

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