Ahead of her Beautiful Trauma tour, Pink’s on the publicity circuit in absolute earnest. Her latest interview delves into the difficult task of being in a relationship with someone for over ten years, and reveals the highs and lows – and dry spells – of her marriage to Carey Hart.
“I process out loud”
Pink – aka Alecia Moore – is the first to admit she’s candid as all heck, noting that it’s how she gets to the bottom of what she really feels about things.
“I process out loud,” she told The Guardian. “I’m basically having therapy and somebody else is getting something from it.”
The singer and mum of two is not having a bar of idealising her relationship to Carey, instead admitting that her feelings for her husband swing from admiration to disdain.
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Keeping it real
You get the feeling that she’s uncomfortable with the prospect of people viewing them as “couple goals”, preferring to openly expose the challenges of staying together.
“There are moments where I look at [Carey] and he is the most thoughtful, logical, constant … he’s like a rock. He’s a good man. He’s a good dad. He’s just the kind of dad I thought he’d be and then some,” Pink said.
“And then I’ll look at him and go: I’ve never liked you. There’s nothing I like about you. We have nothing in common. I don’t like any of the shit you like. I don’t ever wanna see you again.Then two weeks later I’m like, things are going so good, you guys.”
Year without sex
Pink said that sometimes everything feels like it’s where it should be, but at other times, her marriage is not what she expected at all.
“You’ll go through times when you haven’t had sex in a year,” Pink told The Guardian. “Is this the end of it? Do I want him? Does he want me?”
Of course, Pink is not alone in the whole dry spell thing. There’s a pretty diverse spectrum of frequency, when it comes to sexual activity within a marriage, and it’s fair to say it’s something rarely talked about.
We’re loving Pink just a little bit more for being so open about the challenges of staying connected and staying married, when there’s all kinds of chaos swirling about on the sidelines.
“Monogamy is work!” Pink sums up. “But you do the work and it’s good again.”