New mum’s perfect response to stranger who thought she was still pregnant

New mum Anupa King

When an employee at the supermarket Anupa King popped into asked the (no longer pregnant) postpartum mum if she was having a boy or a girl, Anupa turned a potentially awkward situation into something special.

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Remember my first naked belly pregnant shot where I had to build up enough courage to share… Well times that by like a million for this post belly shot comparison. The first image was taken hours before Levi was born and the second taken today at 3 weeks postpartum but I like to think 2 weeks since the first week of postpartum didn't really happen due on a large chunk of my placenta being forgotten in my uterus at birth. One of the main reasons I share this, as most of you know, THIS is a marathon/dancer's body and while that can mean I'll bounce back in no time it clearly doesn't. Especially now too that my body is producing all of Levi's food… I really do admire all the mamas out there that say breastfeeding get their bodies back in shape… For me it'll take me back on the trails for some long distance running to feel like myself again. Yesterday, I was asked by the baker at my supermarket: "Are you having a girl or a boy?" and that would have really hit some soft spots/nerves with me…I mean I'm not pregnant anymore but I sure do look it… instead I smiled and nicely said I had a boy. 😊 After I left the supermarket I realised I absolutely love my body and am so super proud of it hence the reason I chose to share this post image with you. And however long it takes for my body to journey back to where it was once were then that's fine… I know it'll find it's way until then I'll continue to be kind knowing that it's doing exactly what it needs to be doing right now for me and for Levi! . . PS… For all those who've been asking about the flip and flash cards we use with Mikey on insta-stories, they are the Dr. Seuss collection. I'll do another post today showing more. 🤗 . . . . #dearestviewfinder #themommydiary #clickinmoms #soulfocusinspired #babiesofig #humansofjoy #honestmotherhood #momlife #lightinspired #jj_kids #jj_its_kids #treasuringlittlememories #ig_kids #igers_kids #thepursuitofjoyproject #childreningram #MagicOfChildhood #ourchildrenphoto #simplejoys #tv_pointofview #expofilm #kidsmood #lightslove #stunning_shots #childhoodeveryday #realparenthood #transformationtuesday #bumppositive #motherhoodrising @takebackpostpartum

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Pregnant, not pregnant

Most women have been Anupa at one time or another. Perhaps it’s during this vulnerable postpartum period? Perhaps it’s during a bout of particularly hardcore PMS? Maybe it’s after a very dedicated weekend of eating delicious snacks?! Or it could be whilst dealing with bloating caused by PCOS, endometriosis or fibroids, even? 

The common thread is rounded bellies and Anupa’s response to someone commenting on hers – and assuming it signalled pregnancy – was no-nonsense and inspiring.

In Anupa’s case, her rounded belly was a result of having a baby. Her second child, Levi, had recently inhabited her body. Levi was three weeks old when the supermarket worker asked her for more details, assuming she was still pregnant.

As we know, women’s bodies recover from pregnancy and birth at differing rates, in different ways and in their own good time.  Some bellies squishily flatten out in weeks, others remain rounded for months (sometimes years) to come.

Before and after

Anupa was keen to stress that despite breastfeeding and her incredible fitness, she was not the type to bounce back quickly, and she wanted to start a conversation about our value, our power – and our expectations of ourselves.

“The first image was taken hours before Levi was born and the second taken today at 3 weeks postpartum… One of the main reasons I share this, as most of you know, THIS is a marathon/dancer’s body and while that can mean I’ll bounce back in no time it clearly doesn’t.”

“I really do admire all the mamas out there that say breastfeeding gets their bodies back in shape… For me it’ll take me back on the trails for some long distance running to feel like myself again.”

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I'm so happy to say that after 12 days postpartum, I woke up this morning and I'm not swollen anymore. I swear I was so swollen I didn't even recognize myself some mornings. Our breastfeeding appt yesterday went so well… And while it'll be a challenge for both me and Levi we're determine to make it work the way that's best suited for both of us. Mikey has been adjusting so well and I know misses these belly bump shots since he's been bumping daddy's belly everyday all day long 😂. PS… Did I mention my epidural didn't work? I'm still in awe at what our bodies are capable of doing. . . #39weekspregnant . . . . . #dearestviewfinder #themommydiary #clickinmoms #soulfocusinspired #babiesofig #humansofjoy #honestmotherhood #momlife #lightinspired #jj_kids #jj_its_kids #treasuringlittlememories #ig_kids #igers_kids #thepursuitofjoyproject #childreningram #MagicOfChildhood #ourchildrenphoto #simplejoys #tv_pointofview #expofilm #kidsmood #lightslove #stunning_shots #magic #bicfp #childhoodeveryday #pregnantchicken #pregnancyyoga

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“Are you having a girl or a boy?”

Granted – it’s best to never ask a stranger about a pregnancy (unless it’s close to the 40 week mark or you can see the actual baby’s head emerging from their nether regions), nor comment on their body at all – but it happens…

“Yesterday, I was asked by the baker at my supermarket: “Are you having a girl or a boy?” … That would have really hit some soft spots/nerves with me… I mean I’m not pregnant anymore but I sure do look it…  I smiled and nicely said I had a boy,” Anupa posted alongside the side-by-side pics of her pre and postpartum.

“After I left the supermarket I realised I absolutely love my body and am so super proud of it hence the reason I chose to share this post image with you. And however long it takes for my body to journey back to where it was once then that’s fine… I know it’ll find it’s way until then I’ll continue to be kind knowing that it’s doing exactly what it needs to be doing right now for me and for Levi!” Anupa wrote.

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Meet our newest Lion King cub Levi Bruce King! Bruce, named after my late brother and Levi because mommy is completely in love with the name… Meaning "joined in harmony". Born on August 22nd at 7:13 am weighing 8lbs 4 ozs and 21.3 inches long. All the dancing obviously worked cause labor lasted for about 15 minutes 😂 Mommy, Daddy, Mikey and baby including grandma are all doing well. We're now all home and very excited. Our home just won't be the same again…. The overflow of love is simply unreal. ☺️ Thank you all from the King's family for all the wishes. You guys simply know how to make this mama feel awesome! . Levi is wearing this beautiful snuggle swaddle and beanie hat from @snugglehunnykids ❤️ . #iamLeviKing #LeviBruceKing . . . #dearestviewfinder #themommydiary #clickinmoms #soulfocusinspired #babiesofig #humansofjoy #honestmotherhood #momlife #lightinspired #jj_kids #jj_its_kids #treasuringlittlememories #ig_kids #igers_kids #thepursuitofjoyproject #childreningram #MagicOfChildhood #ourchildrenphoto #simplejoys #tv_pointofview #expofilm #kidsmood #lightslove #stunning_shots #magic #inspirepregnancy #stunningbabies

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Us too!

Commenters on the Anupa’s post were so relieved that someone was talking about bodies after baby – and the pressure to “bounce-back” or look a certain way. They were particularly pleased with this awesome mum-of-two’s slower, more accepting approach.

“Beautiful!! That’s your little ones home. It takes a LONG time to get where you were mentally, physically and spiritually. Focus on one of those at a time. But mainly focus on the beautiful life you’ve made.”

“Your body is amazing, and this is the miracle it’s meant for. You and your baby’s health and happiness is all that really matters! Your body will never be exactly like it was pre-pregancies, but look what it did! And what you got in return.”

“I remember standing at the hospital doors waiting for my husband with a 4 hour old baby in a carrier and a lady walked up said ‘oh is there a baby in there, wow you still look pregnant that didn’t happen in my day…’ I was mortified at the expectation to return to my prepregnancy hosting before evening leaving hospital.”

“Our sincere reflection on body change is exactly how I feel after 5.5 months of given birth. The pressure to lose all the fat and return to your “normal” self is overwhelming. Thank you for your honesty.”


This is such a great conversation to have, in a world that promotes whittled waists and six-packs, even in brand new mums. We’re so grateful Anupa’s sparked this important dialogue.

Have you ever been asked about a pregnancy, when you’re not pregnant?!

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