‘It’s been the longest year of my life’: Dad’s first birthday post to son

A UK dad’s frank account of the year-that-was on his son’s first birthday is both hilarious, touching – and a little disturbing, especially if you’re a seagull.

We’ve seen straight-talking mums like Megan Blandford, who bared her soul about being a stay-at-home mum, and now we have a refreshing take from stay-at-home dad, Matt Coyne.

We have previously shared Matt’s unique take on parenting, with a series of photoshopped snaps of his son Charlie sent to his wife on her first day back at work.

Now little Charlie has reached his first birthday and his larrikin dad took time to reflect on Facebook.

“I think I’m supposed to say that the last year has just flown by ..? but it hasn’t, … it’s been the longest year of my life,” he wrote.

Here’s the full post.

Violence against birds aside, there’s no doubt we can all relate to the protective streak Matt speaks of, but it is his closing words that sum it all up perfectly.

“So on this momentous day, I find myself changed. In some ways for the better, in some ways for the worse,” Matt’s post continues.

“But the main way in which I’m changed is that I’m happier. It sounds daft to put it so simply. But, when Charlie made his entrance 12 months ago, and we eyed each other suspiciously for the first time, I wasn’t expecting to be quite so taken with our little human.

“I didn’t realise that I would become so superglue attached, or quite so enthusiastic and proud when he laughs or waves or does something else, that objectively isn’t that earth-shatteringly impressive but feels like it is.”

And I am sure many of us can relate when Matt explains, while the first year was hard, it was also the best.

“Don’t get me wrong, we had a great life before Charlie’s arrival and I’m not going to say anything as sentimental as it took him to make our house a home,” Matt wrote.

“Our home was already a home. It took Charlie to make our home a bomb-site, a wreck, a place where time is chewed up and we are spat out, a place of anarchy, chaos and madness.

“And, who could have possibly thought that all this was exactly what our home had been lacking.”

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