It’s something we often forget when pregnant, when covered in sweat, when struck with exhaustion and when wiping the vomit from our mouths. But it’s something that keeps us going each and every day – the realisation that this is what we’re made to do.
One mum has shared a note for all pregnant mothers out there that may be struggling with morning sickness, exhaustion and hormones – pregnancy, in all its horror, is a gift. And it’s one that we should never ever take for granted.
Blink and you miss it. Well, not really, but the 40 weeks of pregnancy can seem to go incredibly quickly, especially after it’s all over. And it is this beautiful part of your life that you will never get back, especially if this is your last bubba.
That’s the message that Whitney Lloyd has shared on her Facebook page when she was in the early stages of pregnancy with her daughter. And it’s one that keeps getting louder (most recently on The Real Deal of Parenting Facebook page) as more women begin their baby-making journeys and realise just how important that message is.
Whitney posts a candid shot of her make-up stained, swollen-lipped, sweaty face in the morning after yet another session of sickness with a note titled “This is the Face of Pregnancy”.
In the note she touches on her appearance before admitting what really saddens her about the situation is that her husband has said, “This is very likely our last pregnancy.” This will be the “last time I’ll spend my days throwing up more often than I’m able to eat. This “pregnancy face” won’t happen again.”
Whitney admits, “Every time I shove my face in that porcelain throne, I’ll thank God for the opportunity he gave me to carry another tiny miracle. He chose me for this job, and I’ll be damned if I don’t show up every day and give this pregnancy all I’ve got.”
This, mums, especially mums who are on the verge of calling it quits and admitting that pregnancy has beaten them, is what it is all about.
“You see, I know that this is a gift,” Whitney, who is a mum of two and a fitness instructor, eloquently writes. “Not all women can carry babies or get pregnant. Many women who dream of becoming mothers have their dreams delayed, and some are never fulfilled. It breaks my heart that they won’t ever get to experience this — the good, the bad and the ugly.”
We are all guilty of wishing a pregnancy would end, of cursing the skies for the pain involved in this journey. But, when you think about it, pregnancy really is a privilege, nausea and all.
As Whitney writes, “This face of exhaustion, nausea, sweat and tears… I’m thankful for this reminder every morning of what is growing inside of me. In seven short months, I’ll labour to bring another sweet face into this world. I’ll say my last first “hello” to my newborn. I’ll become a mother again for the last time.”
“I’ll never regret this gift.”
So, whether this is your first pregnancy or your last pregnancy, whether you are breezing through it feeling great or are struggling with every symptom in the book, remember that what you are doing is amazing and the reward at the end is worth every single trip to the toilet.