Hope from tragedy: mum donates 60L of breastmilk in stillborn son’s memory

Losing a child has to be the worst nightmare any parent could face. But, despite grieving the loss of her baby boy, Wendy Cruz-Chan found the strength to help others and honour her son in the most beautiful way.

The experienced US doula has pumped more than 60 litres of breast milk, which she has donated to other babies in need.

Wendy suffered a rare uterine infection when she was 19 weeks pregnant with her son Killian, who was stillborn as a result.

She told Inside Edition she wanted to turn her tragedy into something good.

“All I have of him are his ashes in his urn,” Wendy says.

“I can’t dress him, I can’t play [with] him, I can’t watch him grow. As a mother, it breaks me. It hurts me deeply.”

Wendy has been very open about her loss on Facebook and has even started an Instagram page to help raise awareness.

It was while leaving the hospital after sharing their final cuddles with Killian that Wendy says she and her husband decided she would begin pumping her breast milk to help others.

“Even though I cannot personally breastfeed my own son, I wanted to do something in his name,” she told Inside Edition.

“That’s all I can do for him.”

Wendy has gradually started the process to stop her milk production but credits it with giving her a purpose and stopping her from falling into a deeper depression.


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