Four babies later, one mum “finally” learns to love her postpartum body

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This (very gorgeous) mum thinks we should stop judging our bodies and birth experiences, because we are all beautiful and powerful.

The mum journey

Blogger Briana Klink Maco shared a photo of her postpartum body on Instagram a few days ago, and it was accompanied by a heartfelt piece detailing her own journey through motherhood.

Briana cradles her beautiful 10-day-old baby in her arms, and shares her feelings about her body, regretting that she’s often been too hard on herself.

“I remember when I had my first baby at 25. I was so worried about people thinking I was ‘fat’ after, of all the things?! I was so young and naive, not able to comprehend the beauty that my body had just accomplished. 5 pregnancies, 1 vaginal delivery, 3 c-sections later, I finally get it.”

“I see the human body in a different light, I see myself in a different light. I have curves in new places, bumps and lumps and scars. Scars some would view as ‘ugly’. I grew tiny little perfect people. I’m able to nourish and feed from my own body,” Briana posted.

 

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I remember when I had my first baby at 25 I was so worried about people thinking I was 'fat' after, of all the things?! I was so young and naive, not able to comprehend the beauty that my body had just accomplished. 5 pregnancies, 1 vaginal delivery, 3 c-sections later, I finally get it. I see the human body in a different light, I see myself in a different light. I have curves in new places, bumps and lumps and scars. Scars some would view as 'ugly'. I grew tiny little perfect people. I'm able to nourish and feed from my own body. I asked my husband what he thought of my scar. His first response, 'I don't even see it'. He continued with 'if anything I look at it and see all that you went through to give us our family' Find a person that's good and true, that sees you and only you. I'll never know how I got so lucky but I'm thankful every day. Lastly, I feel like there's so much controversy over natural births, c-sections, v-bacs, nursing or formula fed. So much judgement. All that truly matters is that mom and baby are safe and healthy, that there is an abundance of love and we're giving this life our best. Being a mother is hard enough, why divide ourselves? Why compare? There are days I struggle to get out of bed, stay in sweats, yell at my toddlers all day and I order pizza for dinner. There are days I put make up on, get dressed and feel like I can take on the world…until about noon and I realize, this shits hard, when's nap time. We're all just taking it day by day. I'm just glad I'm finally able to find comfort in my own skin. To find appreciation and growth. I hope if you're going through all the new phases of motherhood, you're able to find strength and give yourself grace. You're able to see how beautiful you are. Bringing life in to this world; mothering is such a magical gift.Never underestimate the power of a woman✨ #10dayspostpartum #csectionrecovery #uniteinmotherhood #selflove #relaxyouseemoreinabathingsuitpost #mymomwillstillfreakwhenshestalksmyinstagram #normalizebreastfeeding

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Grateful

The mum to Aubri, Tyler Hope, Nash Riley and Parker Avery says her husband has helped her accept her post-birth body and appreciate its power.

“I asked my husband what he thought of my scar. His first response, ‘I don’t even see it’. He continued with ‘if anything I look at it and see all that you went through to give us our family’. Find a person that’s good and true, that sees you and only you. I’ll never know how I got so lucky but I’m thankful every day.”

Why compare?

Briana urges mums to avoid the comparison trap in the now-viral post, saying we should concentrate on strengthening relationships and being happy and healthy.

“I feel like there’s so much controversy over natural births, c-sections, v-bacs, nursing or formula fed. So much judgement. All that truly matters is that mom and baby are safe and healthy, that there is an abundance of love and we’re giving this life our best. Being a mother is hard enough, why divide ourselves? Why compare?”

The power within

Wearing undies and a feminism-inspired t-shirt pulled up to reveal her taped-up c-section scar, Briana wants other mums to see how beautiful they are.

“I’m just glad I’m finally able to find comfort in my own skin. To find appreciation and growth. I hope if you’re going through all the new phases of motherhood, you’re able to find strength and give yourself grace. You’re able to see how beautiful you are. Bringing life in to this world; mothering is such a magical gift. Never underestimate the power of a woman.”

 

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Welllll it would appear I have some new followers since my last post 😳 which is both surprising and humbling..anddd it gives me anxiety haha, certainly didn't expect that kind of reaction. So welcome, and thank you for the outpouring of kindness! It's funny, the image somehow made it to FB without the caption and the comments were instantly attacking my size, that the image was fake, staged, photoshopped. That the steri strips weren't real (why yes, I must've just snatched this baby out of thin air and thrown some tape on for good measure!) It's sad that that's where people's minds go just because their experience is different than mine. The whole point of the image, for me, was to promote self love, to not compare bodies, stories and experiences. To not pass judgement. I can't help the way I look or the way I heal or my genetics but it doesn't make my experience any less real or painful. It doesn't mean I don't have struggles. I'm wearing low cut underwear to show my incision that I'm finally so very proud of, that doesn't mean I don't have my hanes granny panties to throw on for bed. But why is that even in question?! Love YOURSELF, love YOUR journey, love YOUR body. I have my own issues with mine. If I've ever promoted anything after the loss of our daughter; it's to never judge a book by its cover, to never judge a family by a picture. To be kind to everyone, always, because you never know the battles they're facing. To make your own sunshine. Spread light and fight for your happiness. While I appreciate the shares and shedding light on c-section moms, I truly don't care about the 'followers and likes' (though many of you are truly the BEST and I appreciate your support so very much so please don't take that the wrong way) it's just never been about that for me…so if you feel you just can't muster kind thoughts, kindly leave my page. Just love, people. I'll be over here soaking up my sweet baby bear who is somehow almost two weeks old; because that is what's most important🐻 (I'll forever be grateful to my husband for documenting and capturing this time for us)

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Part of the problem?

While some will say posting a photo of your undie-wearing, postpartum self that’s very much in line with the mainstream idea of beauty might be counter-intuitive and encourage comparison and insecurity, others will celebrate this mum’s push for self-acceptance and finding the goddess within.

Indeed, Briana herself posted again yesterday after facing criticism on Facebook, clarifying that her post was intended to promote self love, not to encourage judgement.

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