Expectant mum divides parenting forum and family with her baby name pick

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When it comes to baby names, everyone has an opinion.

Some love traditional names while others look for something a little different, and then there are those who break all the rules.

And what about those of us (guilty) who lay claim to a name before children are even conceived?

In an attempt to rally support after her family slammed her name choice, a UK mum has turned to an online parenting forum – a decision she is probably regretting now.

The mum, who is expecting her third child, received mixed reviews when she shared her name dilemma under the username AyGirl to mumsnet.

“Am overdue. Baby has not arrived. Do not know gender. Have finally, after much indecision, decided a girl will be Iris James. Mentioned to DB (darling brother) who got very upset and kept on saying it’s not a girls name,” AyGirl wrote.

“Mother has rang me this morning and said he was so upset because he wants to name a son of his James. Keep in mind he is not married or having a child. I do think they are TTC (trying to conceive). But I want to use Iris James!!!!! She said that I shouldn’t and should save it for him because it will be his first child and a son.

“So what, the two beautiful little girls I’ve delivered into our family are nothing? A boy will probably be Gage Theodore. My older DDs (darling daughters) are Hattie Juniper and Cleo Annika so we use quite different names.”

When is a girl’s name not a girl’s name?

The comments came in thick and fast, many of them ridiculing her decision to use the traditional boy’s name, James, as a girl’s middle name – it seems Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds have done little to break the gender divide by naming their first daughter James.

“Sorry but James is either a boys or surname. It’s not you who has to live with that name but your potential daughter,” user EveOnline2016 wrote.

Another user, BalloonSlayer, was also critical: “Well imagine if you had always wanted to call a girl Annabelle and your brother was expecting a boy and announced he would have the middle name Annabelle. Are you saying you wouldn’t be in the least bit pissed off that the name you wanted had been used by another family member for a baby of the wrong sex?”

Then there were the supporters, who urged the mum to stick to her choice.

“It’s fine to use, your brother is being weird and can still use James as a first name for the son he may or may not have one day if he wants,” user ElsaAintAsColdAsMe wrote.

And user Wooooofudge even had some ‘in hindsight’ advice: “This is why you should say nothing about name choices to anyone else. You don’t know that your mother hasn’t just spoken out of turn. If you intend to call your new DD (darling daughter) Iris rather than Iris James then I’d just ignore. It really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.”

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