A gorgeous, post-birth photo of a mother and midwife (below) is going viral for good reason. In one frame it sums up the important and life-altering relationship that often forms between the two.
Jill Krause, who blogs at BabyRabies.com shared the image, taken by photographer Katie Lacer, to Facebook on Wednesday and people are responding emotionally – and sharing their own amazing stories of bonds formed with nurses, midwives and doulas.
I'll never forget the faces of the nurses who followed me into the bathroom after delivering each baby. That moment when…
“So tired, scared, shaky”
Jill said these raw moments after the birth of her babies are forever implanted in her memory and the care she received from her midwives confirmed a special, invaluable connection between them.
“I’ll never forget the faces of the nurses who followed me into the bathroom after delivering each baby. That moment when I was so vulnerable, so tired, scared, shaky. My swollen belly deflating, and my modesty long gone. They treated me with such kindness and dignity,” Jill wrote.
“Moments of empowerment”
Catching her breath and beginning the recovery process alongside experienced and caring professionals made all the difference at a time when she literally felt cracked open.
“For me, these have been moments of empowerment and confirmation that I have a real village to help me, even if just for that little bit of time in a bathroom, on a toilet, while a kind nurse shows me how to put an ice pad on my mesh undies,” Jill posted.
Jill’s friend, Katie Lacer, was there to capture this moment. Her photo transports Jill back to those minutes and hours after delivery, when everything felt so special and terrifying in equal parts. She hopes people will share the photo and start conversations about the care we receive after our babies are born – and how powerful and painful those early hours are.
“This photo by my friend MommaKT Shoots just takes me right back. Like, I can smell the Dermaplast. Let’s hear it for the nurses and the doulas and anyone else who shows us how to make ice pad underwear (or helps with that first shower post c-section!)”
Other mums have responded to Katie’s photo of Jill in solidarity, sharing their own feelings about this super vulnerable time.
Content warning: Please note some comments below discuss the loss of a baby.