“Dear men … take the photo” The campaign to get more mums in the picture

Alison and her son

Let’s be honest. As mums, we take ourselves out of far too many family photos because we are so consumed with how bad we think we look or we never think to hand over the camera. Well, a US mum, Kaylin Schimpf has started an online movement calling on the men in our lives to intervene and just ‘take the photo’.

While we fuss over how big or small we look, how tired or dishevelled we feel, and whether the angle or lighting is complimentary, just imagine the moments we are missing.

When we stay behind the camera and capture spectacular memories featuring our children and their dads, we forget our importance.

As Kaylin beautifully explains, mums need to feature in the family photos.

“It doesn’t matter what she looks like, or if she tells you no, take the photo,” Kaylin wrote in her Facebook post.

“You may not think about it often, or at all honestly. But how many photos does she capture of you, of your family and of your life you’ve built,” she wrote.

“But when she is gone, those photos won’t show your children the women who was behind the camera.”

Kaylin encourages men to be proud of their wives and partners and take photos of them “before and after kids”.

“Take the photo. Messy hair, no make up or a dirty old t-shirt won’t matter to your children when she is gone someday,” she wrote.

“What will matter is that you loved what you saw enough to take a photo, to document it, to preserve that moment in time of the woman you love.

“No woman wants to look back at a lifetime of selfies. Do what she does for you every day, and snap a few moments in time.”

The post has since gone viral, with men and women everywhere sharing Kaylin’s words and adding their own unedited photos.

Here’s just a few.

If all of this isn’t enough to convince you to stop shielding your face from the camera, just think of the photos you have of your mum or grandmother.

When they are no longer with you, what will the photos of them mean to you?

If they are caught in a candid snap laughing and make-up free, lost in a moment of play with a smaller you in the yard or wearing old faded pyjamas while cuddled up with you at night reading – would you ever see those photos as anything less than perfect?

Personally, I am totally guilty of this. My husband has all but given up on taking a photo of me I won’t criticise.

But, my three-year-old son isn’t going to understand why I am missing from the family photos when he grows up.

So my husband now has free reign to snap away.

Here’s just one of his happy snaps in all its make-up free and unedited glory.


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