Chrissy Teigen’s just chatted to Today about the pressure of mum life in the spotlight and it’s making us cranky just thinking about the hefty – and unfair – price of fame.
“It gets to me”
No matter that having a baby and getting used to a whole new life as a parent is a huge challenge, those who speak about it publicly apparently deserve to be flooded with judgement and unsolicited advice. Ugh. No they don’t.
Chrissy says even though the judgement and criticism happens to her every single day, there’s no getting used to it. It’s not a matter of simply shaking it off.
“It gets to me every time,” she admitted, revealing that she got her first taste of concern trolling when she was pregnant with 1-year-old daughter Luna. “I feel like pregnancy is the time for them to warm you up to the shaming that’s about to come because they really go in on you.”
“I definitely care”
Chrissy says she just can not win when it comes to the naysayers. No matter what she posts, however benign it seems, people are waiting in the wings to find fault in her parenting and life-living in general.
“[Luna’s] obsessed with jelly shoes and every time I put them on her, I get a million people saying, ‘Those have chemicals in them,’” an obviously exhausted Chrissy said.
These unrelenting attacks leave her second-guessing herself and take much of the joy – and Insta – out of Instagram.
“It’s just so much. I don’t want to have to look at a photo for 20 minutes before I post it.”
It was when people started to critique baby Luna’s facial expressions that she realised there was simply no stopping the shamers. They’d always be coming for her.
“You realize you’re going to get it no matter what, and it started when I was pregnant,” she said. “If I seem like I don’t care, I definitely care.”
We’d care too. :(
“We choose to roll with it”
The mum-of-one also opened up about the realities of her glamorous jet-set life. They’ve been racking up the frequent flyer miles with Luna in tow – to Bali and more recently Italy – and Chrissy says she’s trying harder to take the challenge of flying with a toddler in her stride.
“I’m very hyper aware of children on a plane. John tells me all the time that I actually think my daughter is the loudest. She’s really not, but that’s what my anxiety does to me.”
“I think we get stuck in our own heads and worried about pleasing other people. You look around and realize that everyone has their headsets on, she’s not screaming or kicking seats, etc. You’ve got to either roll with it or deal with the anxiety of it. We choose to roll with it,” she told Today.
“I was, point blank, just drinking too much”
That trip to a wellness retreat in Bali was a pivotal point in Chrissy’s life. Having the opportunity to slow down and focus on herself, coupled with her and husband John Legend’s hopes for another child, made Chrissy realise she wanted to change her approach to alcohol and her overall wellbeing.
It was an a-ha moment for this mum who says the boozy industry she works in was turning her into someone she didn’t like – and the medications she was taking to combat anxiety and postnatal depression did not mix well with alcohol.
“I was, point blank, just drinking too much,” Chrissy told Cosmpolitan.
“I used to think it was kind of nutty to have to go totally sober, but now I get it. I don’t want to be that person. I have to fix myself.”
Baby number two?
Abstaining from alcohol on the Bali trip was the turning point and now there’s no looking back as she and John make plans for baby number two.
“I would wake up feeling amazing. My skin felt amazing. I was just so happy.”
“We’re going to try to have a child. This is for us to try to get in the zone of ‘let’s travel, let’s be away together, let’s see our closest friends,’ and then we’re going to have to do something super hard, which is the IVF process, all over again.”
We’re very excited by the prospect of another little Legend! Eep!