The anonymous letter that stunned a new mum

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Proud mum Jade Ruthven didn’t think twice about posting photos of her beloved baby girl on Facebook. So imagine her dismay when she received an anonymous letter in the mail telling her – in no uncertain tones – to tone it down.

The Perth mum, 33, says she shares photos of six-month-old Addison on Facebook because it’s the easiest way to keep in touch with friends and family overseas. But recently, Ms Ruthven opened her letterbox to find a “poison pen” letter claiming to be from a friend, on behalf of “a few of the girls”. It went like this:

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No suprisingly, Ms Ruthven and husband Ryan were completely taken aback. “It’s an absolutely disgusting and cowardly way of  going about something,” she tells Channel 7’s Sunrise. “I was shocked. I couldn’t believe that someone who potentially considered me as a friend would do something so cowardly and not even sign off on in it.”

But Ms Ruthven – who says she posts on average one or two updates about Addison on Facebook each day – is having the last laugh. She sent the letter to columnist Em Rusciano, who wrote about it and shared it on social media. It’s since gone viral, picked up by media all over the world.

“I’m not going to read the letter, curl up in a corner start crying and take myself of Facebook. The total opposite’s going to happen,” she tells Sunrise.

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She tells Daily Mail Australia: “Lucky for me I am a strong, healthy person. Being a first-time mum is hard enough to get your head around but for someone who was feeling alone or who was struggling with the challenges of motherhood this could have had terrible consequences. These people clearly have too much time on their hands to sit and chat about my Facebook usage. It’s quite sad really.”

Ms Ruthven says she’s been blown away by the support she’s received from family and friends and even strangers since receiving the letter. But she’s still stumped as to which of her so-called friends wrote it. “I went through my (Facebook) friends list and couldn’t potentially think of anyone on there doing this to me,” she tells Sunrise. “Whatever they were planning on get out of it – it looks like it’s backfired.”

(Images via Sunrise, Daily Mail Australia)

Michelle Rose

Michelle Rose

Michelle is a journalist and mum to two girls who are obsessed with dinosaurs, fairies, pirates and princesses in equal measure. She lives in Melbourne's east with her husband, daughters and a giant, untameable labradoodle. Michelle loves all things vegetarian, wine (it's a fruit) and online shopping.

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