Gold Coast mum Sarah Toyer’s family photo album received an awe-inspiring addition when her husband Joseph captured the mum of four delivering baby Spencer herself – by c-section. No biggie.
Fourth time is a charm
Sarah and Joseph were already parents to 4-year-old Jay, 3-year-old Ruby and 2-year-old Wyatt when Spencer made his mum assisted entrance.
All the couple’s babies were born via c-section and when it became clear that baby number four would be a c-section delivery too, Sarah knew she wanted to be more involved in this birth than she had been with her past deliveries.
The determined mum began to research maternal-assisted c-section deliveries, making plans with Joseph and her midwife to be extra hands-on during the birth.
“It was important to me because I had never been able to push my baby out and experience a normal labour and birth and thought this would be the closest thing to a natural birth, which I knew I could never have,” Sarah told Babble.
Best laid plans
The only possible hitch in this DIY c-section plan was the attitude of the surgeon involved.
“I talked to every midwife, doctor, and surgeon about what I wanted to do, but they all said it would depend on the surgeon on call that day,” Sarah explained.
As it turns out, they struck gold. Phew!
Sarah told Babble their c-section surgeon was “absolutely amazing.”
“She was genuinely excited for me to experience birthing my child,” Sarah said.
In fact, the whole surgical team was excited to be part of this still rare c-section approach.
Like a surgeon
Sarah scrubbed in alongside her surgeon and was required to keep her hands across her chest – to ensure they were sterile – as her epidural was administered.
“When the day came along we waited 8 hours at the hospital, then I was standing there next to the surgeon scrubbing up just as she was.”
It was obviously an overwhelmingly emotional experience.
“Maybe half an hour later I was lying on the operating table watching my son’s head being pulled from my womb. I reached down and put my hands under his arms and lifted the rest of him out of my own body. It was the most incredible thing I have ever done,” Sarah remembers.
That very first touch
We get the sense that Sarah still can’t quite believe everything went according to plan.
“I never actually thought I would be allowed to do it. To be the first one (other than the surgeon) to touch and hold my baby was amazing.”
“To finally see that baby you’ve been growing for so long is definitely worth it. I wish I could relive that moment all the time — it’s so hard to put into words how incredible it felt,” she said.
Sarah wanted to share her experience to raise awareness of this delivery option, and show other mums that there are hands-on options for c-section births.
“I like to think that someone else may get to experience a birth just like mine, because they had the opportunity to hear about it,” the amazing baby delivering mum said.
Ace work, mama! Thanks so much for sharing this amazing experience so generously.