While I was expecting my first child, I would often drift off into daydreams. I imagined a blissful stretch during which I could enjoy coffee in the morning, walks in the park and afternoon naps as the baby slept. Let’s face it, those dreams did not match reality. Maternity leave was one of my most challenging, intense and transformational seasons. Even amid chaos, I learned five lessons that have changed the way I view work, time and growth. Maternity Leave Changes Life
They helped me to survive. These revelations changed the course of my life. These tips will hopefully encourage, reassure, and even inspire you if you are preparing for or currently navigating maternity leave.
1. You’ll work harder than ever before: Maternity Leave Changes Life
We usually associate maternity leave with time off from work. But what about motherhood? It’s full-time work, plus more. The job of a parent doesn’t end at the clock. The days blur into the nights, filled with sooth, feeding and recalibrating schedules. Naps are like mirages. Overnight, laundry piles can accumulate. Your most valuable asset is emotional resilience.
You’ll have a clearer view of the things that matter. Who deserves your attention, time and energy? What dreams do you wish to revive? Reinvention is possible during maternity leave.
You may find yourself quietly adjusting your resume while a babysitter is visiting. One afternoon you’ll recalibrate your career goals in between feedings. You will discover a rare clarity in the daily grind. A new definition of balance, and a deeper alignment of the life that you are living now with the life that you dream of.
2. You’ll Discover a Gap in the Space-Time Continuum
You probably thought that time moved in neat rows before becoming a mother: breakfast, lunch, dinner. What about during maternity leave, though? The reality shifts.
You wake up one day to find it is 4 p.m., your baby has slept, or maybe not, between a grumpy waking and bursts of productivity. You thought you’d be late. You’re not.
You finish a presentation on another day. You’ve also prepared a few meals and fed your baby twice. And you still have the energy to go for a walk in the middle of the afternoon. How did this happen, you ask?
Maternity leave is a way to say that the old rules are no longer valid. But what about the new ones? They’re richer. You learn patience with a child. You need to let go of rigid expectations. There are often golden hours hidden in the chaos of a day. For example, when your baby is napping and you can finish your 30-minute yoga session instead of staring at the ceiling.
What is this fluidity? It’s exhilarating. Once you learn how to ride the waves, you won’t want to go anywhere else.
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3. Your “Mum Ninja Skills” will be improved by learning them at home
You’ll develop “designer mum” skills as you struggle to cope with the endless demands and sleepless nights. You’ll be able to accomplish these feats without realising it.
- Your peripheral vision will allow you to see mischief in a room.
- One-handed juggler’s grace: With a baby in one arm and a diaper bag, coffee or keys, you can open a car’s door with ease.
- The Disciplinary Glide: A look that is sent around the house silences the dog in mid-zoom and hushes the toddler’s giggles.
- Power-Packing Maestro: You can fit all the essentials of your life into one nappy pouch and zip it shut.
- Multitasking with military grade. Texting, feeding and planning dinner while maintaining a calm, composed face.
There’s much more to survival than that. Maternity leave puts you in a unique position to grow professionally–without leaving your living room.
You can use your maternity leave to explore new things, whether it’s starting a blog, taking an online course or earning a certificate. You may want to explore mental health counselling or UX design.
I reached out to Ivy College, an online educator, and I came across mid-maternity leave. They encouraged my interest in education and gave me flexibility with payment. Between late-night feedings and nap times, I managed to squeeze in leadership modules. It was not neat, linear or neatly organised. But it worked.
You would be surprised at how much momentum can be built, not despite a new baby but as a result of it.
4. Find out how little sleep you need
I used to believe that 6-8 hours of uninterrupted sleeping was a sacred thing. On maternity leave, you have a new sleep economy. You might catch a two-hour dream between feedings. Lunchtime 45-minute naps are a real treasure. A 15-minute power nap feels more like escapism than indulgence.
You quickly learn your thresholds. You learn to adapt.
Productivity under sleep deprivation is the next superpower. When your brain is foggy, you learn to focus. You develop greater intuition. You become more intuitive. Your instincts take over the moment your baby starts to fuss.
You also learn just how fragile you are when you lack sleep. You begin to guard nap times with vigour. It becomes second nature to plan your day around these precious pauses.
You’ve just improved your resilience if you wash baby clothes, pay bills and finish a webinar between 45-minute naps. This ability will stay with you for life.
5. The world as you knew it will never be the same. And that’s okay
Your job, social life and hobbies will be the same, but something fundamentally different. Maternity leave can be both an interruption and a rebirth, not only in identity but also in perception.
- You can now include a 20-minute nap in your definition of “free time” or a 30-minute coffee break.
- Your benchmarks will change. “Making a bed” is now a huge win. The same goes for 30 minutes of uninterrupted conversation with your partner. What else? Pure bonus
- Your relationship deepens. Maybe you formed a new tribe of mums, or you changed the way you feel about your partner because you worked together at 2 am.
- You realise: You’re still you. You can still edit, revise, and reshape your dreams after becoming a parent.
- I see invitations. We are welcome at any table, whether it’s the boardroom on Sunday or dressed up as mermaids.
Maternity leave was a blank canvas painted with challenges, vulnerability and incredible growth. This shifted my focus, not away from work but towards new horizons and expanded possibilities.
Build on these Discoveries
Embracing Hard Work
- If you’re feeling overwhelmed, change the narrative: “I am not defeated – I’m a busy working mum.” Create a daily list of small wins – whether it’s “washed a load of laundry,” or “had fun with your baby.”
The Time Continuum
- Try curiosity instead of guilt. Which days have a rhythm and which do not? Slow down, breathe, and drift into the flow. These days reveal the things that bring us joy and calm.
Practice Ninja Skills… with Intention
- Send a text to celebrate these accomplishments. For example, if you manage to combine your shopping trip with a meal and achieve inbox zero all in one go, send a text. Remind yourself that you’re ready to do more.
Draw on Sleep Lessons
- Sleep should be scheduled like any other appointment. Prioritising sleep is the best way to regain energy. Be sure to keep your bedtime rituals sacred for both you and your baby.
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Accepting transformation as a gift
- If you want to define “success”, let your baby decide. It could be love, responsiveness or patience rather than performance.
What do these lessons mean in the long term?
- You can return to your job with new badges for endurance, adaptability and creativity.
- While your child is napping, you can relaunch a side hustle, passion project, or career.
- It is possible to learn how to combine family life and growth, rather than selling one off for the other.
- You become more present. You know that deep focus you learned at 3 am? This deep focus will follow you to meetings, deadlines and even into the most intimate conversations.
Final Thoughts – A Letter for the New Mum on Maternity Leave
Dear Mama
You may feel exhausted. You may feel tired. You may miss your old habits, or perhaps your old habits were the ones that felt stale.
That’s a fair point. You’re likely going through a humbling experience as you rewrite your identity.
It’s also rewriting your future.
You will become stronger, smarter and more sensitive to emotions. You’ll emerge with a clarity and resilience that you didn’t think you could muster.
Keep going.
Take breaks.
Journal your values.
Celebrate at 8 pm as soon as it arrives.
Accept the fact that you can be both a story-changer and a story-nourisher in your tale.
You might not be the person you used to be when it comes time. What about the person you’re becoming? You need someone with deeper roots, more incisive wings, and a fierce passion to guide you, your family, and whatever happens next.
You can do it. You’ll take these lessons far beyond the season. They will guide you in every endeavour you pursue, every relationship you cherish, and every role that you play.
Welcome to motherhood. You will be endlessly surprised and enriched.
