Model/activist Amber Rose and her musician ex Wiz Khalifa share a son – five-year-old Sebastian – and the little boy is apparently a huge fan of his mum’s hair. He’s such a big fan, in fact, that he wanted matching locks and when his mum complied people had very big feelings about it!
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Lol he begged me for a whole year to dye his hair blonde like mine so we started with a little patch and I told him when he turns 5 I will make him a full blonde like his mommy. He will be 5 on the 21st of February! He’s so happy and none of you dirty little trolls can take that away from him or me! 😍😍😍 P.S Love your children unconditionally and let them be creative this world will be a better place 🙏🏽❤️😘
“He’s so happy!”
“He begged me for a whole year to dye his hair blonde like mine,” Amber wrote alongside a photo of Sebastian with his new hair. “We started with a little patch and I told him when he turns 5 I will make him a full blonde like his mommy. He will be 5 on the 21st of February! He’s so happy and none of you dirty little trolls can take that away from him or me! P.S Love your children unconditionally and let them be creative this world will be a better place.”
People had opinions of course, and really who can blame them? It usually takes a pretty serious chemical cocktail to lighten dark hair, so we can understand why some people were pondering the wisdom of exposing a tender scalp to that.
That said, mums and dads usually do what they think is best for their kids and it’s good to trust their wisdom. It’s obvious that this dye job was done carefully – and everyone seems really happy with the results. Amber even says she spot tested a small patch long before bleaching Sebastian’s entire head. It’s clear she didn’t do this on a whim.
Is it a good idea?
But is bleaching your child’s hair ever advisable? The experts say that colouring hair is best left until kids are in their mid teens, unless the hair dye is the type that simply coats the hair.
“Children’s hair is less mature than adult hair or even teenage hair,” Dr. Tace Rico, a paediatric dermatologist, recently told Today Parents. “The hair is finer with a much more fragile shaft to it.” Dr Rico says kids’ hair can be easily damaged by ammonia, bleach, hydrogen peroxide, and other chemicals found in some hair dyes, and recommends semi-permanent or temporary hair dyes only, for under-16s.
While many commenters applauded Sebastian’s new look and thought he looked adorable and very pleased, others took Amber Rose to task – and told her off.
“What is wrong with you doing what you want with your child?” one person posted.
“Just because our children beg us for something doesn’t mean we have to let them have it,” another pointed out.
“Five year old dying his hair. So sad. He’s cute no matter what but WTF?” someone else wrote of their conflicted feelings about Sebastian’s new hair.
Weirdly there were also a lot of comments asserting that hair colour affects sexuality. And by that we mean some ignorant types left comments saying hair dye equates to gayness.
“The perfect way to make your son think he was supposed to be gay growing up,” was the kind of thing some people felt the need to post alongside this beaming photo of a child.
Now we KNOW you know this sort of thinking is not only incorrect, but that it assumes heterosexuality is the required default AND implies being gay is a negative.
It’s further proof that there needs to be much more education about the spectrum of sexuality and much less (let’s go for ZERO) emphasis on labelling small children and marginalising people.