This mum’s approach to toilet training will have you thinking differently

Nancy Ray and Milly

A US mum’s Instagram update about potty training her daughter Milly offers a fresh perspective on a sometimes frustrating experience.

Light at the end of the tunnel

If you’re deep in the trenches of attempting to get your kiddo out of nappies, then North Carolina-based Nancy Ray’s thoughts on this pee-soaked, perilous process might stop you in your tracks.

“Even though I’ve been peed on 3 times today and she’s still scared of the potty, I’m realizing THESE are the good ol’ days! I’m relishing in them,” Nancy wrote. Wait what?

Nancy goes on to explain that she’s trying to see this as an opportunity to teach her daughter she can achieve big things. She hopes to be an encourager (not the lady who is sighing as she mops up yet another puddle!)

“I count these days of potty training as my first opportunity to really speak life over my girl as she struggles (and myself – let’s be honest), to show her that she is capable of more than she thinks, and that she CAN do hard things. I want to be THAT mama.”

 

Even though I've been peed on 3 times today and she's still scared of the potty, I'm realizing THESE are the good ol' days! I'm relishing in them. I count these days of potty training as my first opportunity to really speak life over my girl as she struggles (and myself – let's be honest), to show her that she is capable of more than she thinks, and that she CAN do hard things. I want to be THAT mama. Even though she's little and this whole thing might take longer than I think, I can simultaneously love her unconditionally and not rush her growing up WHILE calling her up to new heights. I will continue teaching her when she doesn't want to change and is comfortable where she is. I'm catching just a glimpse of the years ahead and the new phase of parenting I'm about to enter, and man does it make me so excited and thankful. For a few years, I get to instruct this little lady during the most formidable years of her life. Goodness, I adore this little chicken. #millyraytoday

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You can do it!

This is Nancy’s first opportunity to teach her baby she’s capable of big things.

“Even though she’s little and this whole thing might take longer than I think, I can simultaneously love her unconditionally and not rush her growing up WHILE calling her up to new heights. I will continue teaching her when she doesn’t want to change and is comfortable where she is.”

Nancy says she’s looking forward to guiding her daughter through more of life’s challenges and triumphs.

“I’m catching just a glimpse of the years ahead and the new phase of parenting I’m about to enter, and man does it make me so excited and thankful. For a few years, I get to instruct this little lady during the most formidable years of her life.”

“I love your perspective”

Instagrammers were inspired by this mum’s positive and fresh approach to an often tricky task.

“I needed to read this. I am such a control freak & it’s hard for me to process helping my kid obtain his independence, particularly at my potential inconvenience or embarrassment (perfectionist struggler right here). I pray every day for the emotional capacity to parent my son well. Thank you for sharing your story so vulnerably,” one mum wrote.

“So sweet. I love your perspective. You got this mama,” another said.

Nancy’s more than ready for whatever lies ahead. Because squishy, mama love!

“Goodness, I adore this little chicken,” she posted alongside an image of Milly and her toys snuggled up on the couch. Naw.

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