Mum-of-three Ashle Potter has managed to capture the zeitgeist of mum life right now, plucking a whole range of familiar parenting experiences and squishing them into one super-positive, mum accepting call to arms.
“To the mom”
Ashle’s post originally appeared on her own personal Facebook profile, but as it gained momentum it also popped up on the ever-popular and optimistic Love What Matters Facebook page.
It’s been thumbs-upped by thousands and shared widely – possibly to applause and wild high-fiving! We can see why.
Ashle’s view is that every mum matters, because most mums are approaching parenting with excellent intentions and a do-your-best attitude. This ace mum is keen to remind us that we’re all doing the best we can, with what we have and suggests putting judgement aside in favour of compassion.
To the mom who's breastfeeding: Way to go! It really is an amazing gift to give your baby, for any amount of time that…
To the mom who’s breastfeeding: Way to go! It really is an amazing gift to give your baby, for any amount of time that you can manage! You’re a good mom.
To the mom who’s formula feeding: Isn’t science amazing? To think there was a time when a baby with a mother who couldn’t produce enough would suffer, but now? Better living through chemistry! You’re a good mom.
To the cloth diapering mom: Fluffy bums are the cutest, and so friendly on the bank account. You’re a good mom.
To the disposable diapering mom: Wow those things hold a lot, and it’s excellent to not worry about leakage and laundry! You’re a good mom.
To the mom who stays home: I can imagine it isn’t easy doing what you do, but to spend those precious years with your babies must be amazing. You’re a good mom.
To the mom who works: It’s wonderful that you’re sticking to your career, you’re a positive role model for your children in so many ways, it’s fantastic. You’re a good mom.
To the mom who had to feed her kids from the drive thru all week because you’re too worn out to cook or go grocery shopping: You’re feeding your kids, and hey, I bet they aren’t complaining! Sometimes sanity can indeed be found in a white bag with a big red chick on it. You’re a good mom.
To the mom who gave her kids a homecooked breakfast lunch and dinner for the past week: Excellent! Good nutrition is important, and they’re learning to enjoy healthy foods at an early age, a boon for the rest of their lives. You’re a good mom.
To the mom with the kids who are sitting quietly and using their manners in the fancy restaurant: Kudos, it takes a lot to maintain order with children in a place where they can’t run around. You’re a good mom.
To the mom with the toddler having a meltdown in the cereal aisle: they always seem to pick the most embarrassing places to lose their minds don’t they? We’ve all been through it. You’re a good mom.
To the moms who judge other moms for ANY of the above? Glass houses, friend. Glass houses. – Ashle Potter
Judge less, love more
We love it that Ashle took the time to put into words so many of the things that a lot of us think and feel.
We also love it that she’s created an encouraging manifesto to let exhausted or struggling mums know that they’re not alone.
Of course there are all kinds of reasons people make parenting decisions – Ashle’s only raised a few – and briefly at that – because it’s a Facebook update, she’s not writing a book! Her documented reasons may not be your reasons for making a decision about a particular parenting choice. We get that.
But the fact of the matter is that the difficulties of parenting are varied, but also often universal.
"To the mom who's breastfeeding: Way to go! It really is an amazing gift to give your baby, for any amount of time that…
Other commenters cheered and even added to Ashlee’s words:
“And to all the ladies out there wishing for the chance to be a mom – keep your chin up. In one form or another your wish will come true,” one suggested.
“To the mom who had her baby vaginally, you are brave. You are a good mom.
To the mom who had her baby through C-section, you are the epitome of strength. You are a good mom,” a follower wrote.
“To the moms out there who do the best they can for their kiddos even when it feels like it’s never enough. You’re a good mom,” another woman posted.
“And to all the Moms who sometimes feel you did something, anything, wrong; you’re a good Mom. You’re there for them, they appreciate it. Even if they don’t know it yet,” a woman commented.
The conversation Ashle’s started is obviously an important and much-needed one. Talking about how different – and yet the same – we are is a positive step in the direction of kindness and compassion. Nice work, mama!