Study reveals number of times parents argue each month (and the reasons why)

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If you and your partner have had a few screaming matches about raising your children, you’re in good company. According to a new study, a couple with children will argue about parenting related concerns an average of eight times per month.

The study commissioned by Care.com found the average parent will argue with their other half almost 100 times per year. They also discovered the most common reasons why parents fight. And, surprisingly, money only comes into play halfway down the list.

Join us as we count down the most common arguments parents have. And revel in the fact that you are not the only one frustrated by your partner’s parenting opinions.

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10. Rewards

How and when it is appropriate to reward your child.

9. Bedtime routine

Letting your child sleep in your bed.

8. Letting baby cry

Immediately seeing to a crying baby vs leaving the infant to calm down before going in.

7. Christmas and birthday budget

How much to spend on the kids at Christmas or birthdays.

6. Self-settling

Whether it is okay to let a baby cry or self-soothe.

5. Strictness

Whether one parent is shouting or being too strict.

4. Following through

When one parent does not follow through on a threat or punishment.

3. Undermining authority

When one parents says yes to a child after the other parent has already said no.

2. Handling tantrums

How to manage a child’s screaming fit at home, in the supermarket, in the car, at school-drop off, at the neighbour’s house…

1.  Discipline techniques

How to discipline your child.

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It’s not surprising that couples will have differing opinions when it comes to parenting. More than half of parents believe the reasons behind their disagreements stem from how they were raised, while 40 per cent said it was possibly because they find different things more important than others.

Liz Fraser, family expert for Care.com, says, “Everyone will have their own thoughts on what is the right or wrong way to bring up their children. Talking about the things you disagree on, and trying to reach some kind of workable, peace-keeping compromise, will really make things a lot easier.”

How many of these arguments have you and your partner had this month? We’re 8 for 10 in our household!

Jenna Gallina

Jenna Gallina

Jenna Gallina is our features writer and loves showcasing all sides of parenting. When she is not watching Disney/Pixar movies, running around the park with her kids or dreaming about Jon Snow, she is drinking coffee or wine and planning her next adventure. Born and raised in Canada, she now lives in Cairns with her adorable children, her ridiculously good looking partner, her naughty dog and a really strange cat who thinks he's a dog.

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