Julia Stiles has a newborn and the mummy shaming has commenced

Julia Stiles and baby Strummer

Julia Stiles posted a photo of herself and her newborn son, Strummer, showing off their favourite baby carrier (Tula for those playing at home). Sadly it signalled a kind of “spot the problem” game, where judge-y people voiced criticism in the guise of concern. Sigh.

And they’re off!

As Julia delighted in uploading a photo of her fresh little baby, annoying types rubbed their hands together and prepared to bust out the scanctimummy critiques. They seemed thrilled by the opportunity to trip the actor-mum up.

“The baby’s face is smothering!!!” one very cross woman posted. “What’s wrong with you??!!”

“No it’s not!! He’s fine!!” another retorted, defending the 10 Things I Hate About You star. “He’s just tiny bc he’s a newborn. Also, did it occur to you that maybe she hid his face on purpose? Bc she doesn’t want to show his face, just like a lot of other celebrities? Get a freaking grip lady.”

There were other mean comments too, but as people and press rushed to defend Julia, the snarkers began to delete their jabs and cover their tracks.

We can’t help but wonder how poor Julia felt, deep in her newborn bubble and suddenly fending off critiques of her parenting. She was just trying to share a photo of the tiny person she and Preston J Cook made, with fans. She wasn’t to know that people can turn even the most special moments into something about themselves.

“Carnivorous” internet

Obviously a little rattled, she responded with another image, this time sans baby Strummer – and with comments pointedly turned off. She challenged negative followers and hate readers to rethink their approach/lives and explained she was trying to balance her baby’s privacy with fans’ curiosity.

“It was brought to my attention that in the previous photo I am not holding my baby correctly. Wow, I didn’t expect that,” Julia posted.

“What was supposed to be a shout out of products I like, suddenly becomes an invitation to comment on my baby, and my ability as a mother.”

“That’s the internet for you, the carnivorous plant from “Little Shop of Horrors”. I was trying to keep much of my son’s image private, including, I guess, his little feet. And it was just a photo taken at home, not how I normally carry him around. Thanks for the concern, anyway.”

“Yes, Mothers, always read the safety instructions. But also, Instagrammers: instead of writing snarky comments about a 5 week old, try dancing around your living room to a Clash record. It’s way more fun.”

(It’s worth noting that Julia’s The Clash namecheck may confirm baby Strummer WAS named for the band’s frontman, Joe Strummer!)

It was brought to my attention that in the previous photo I am not holding my baby correctly. Wow, I didn't expect that. What was supposed to be a shout out of products I like, suddenly becomes an invitation to comment on my baby, and my ability as a mother. That's the internet for you, the carnivorous plant from "Little Shop of Horrors". I was trying to keep much of my son's image private, including, I guess, his little feet. And it was just a photo taken at home, not how I normally carry him around. Thanks for the concern, anyway. Yes, Mothers, always read the safety instructions. But also, Instagrammers: instead of writing snarky comments about a 5 week old, try dancing around your living room to a Clash record. It's way more fun.

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Sounds familiar 

Argh. Too right. Leave Julia alone!

This reminds us of the time Chrissy Teigen admitted she spent a very, very long time examining photos of her daughter Luna for potential mummy-shaming targets, before she posted them to social media. Even that cautious approach didn’t keep her safe from the snark.

It’s another reminder that shaming someone publicly is never, ever okay. If you are seriously concerned about someone’s safety approach, a gentle private message is a much better idea. But better still is trusting other parents – and their supporting friends and family members – to do what’s best for their kids. Just stay out of other people’s business with this kind of petty stuff.

Oh man, I did the Selfie Face. #backintheNYgroove

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Alright, I couldn't resist.

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