Blogger mum’s tribute to grandparents: “I couldn’t do this without them”

Olivia White and kids

Blogger Olivia White – who blogs at House Of White – busted out a robust cheer for the grandparents in her life – and it’s striking a chord with many fans and followers. 

How good are grandparents! I don’t think I could do this whole parenting thing without them, in fact I know I couldn’t! You know it’s funny, I was once sent a screen shot of a message where a few people I knew were condemning me saying “the parent’s always have her kids” like it was a bad thing? It only made me chuckle because I couldn’t help but wonder if perhaps they’d do the same if they could or perhaps they didn’t allow themselves to because they had bought into the stupid perception that mum’s had to do it all, want to do it all and be good at it! I’m happy to admit that I’m not good at everything. How I do it may not be how someone else would but you just do what works. And what works changes from day to day. I think it’s amazing our girls see their grandparents pretty much daily, my husband and his dad work together, they live super close and even have their own bedrooms there. Every few weekends they spend the night, even if we aren’t doing anything, they just beg to stay!! Same with my parents! Should I get stuck with a meeting on a non daycare day or need to travel I can call my mum to come and help – they don’t say it takes a village for nothing!! I grew up living with my grandparents as my mum was a single mum. Without them we would have been living in shitty housing and mum would have had to have worked round the clock just to make ends meet. So to see my girls have the close relationship with theirs that they do just warms my heart. I’m also forever grateful because without out their help I couldn’t work, I couldn’t pursue my career or work towards our future the way I’d like! I want my girls to see me be passionate and working hard! I want to save for their education, I want to contribute financially at home and I want to take my family on holidays and experience the world! But that’s a lot so perhaps taking help where I can isn’t such a bad thing?! #yayforgrandparents

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Vital village

Not only is Olivia keen to give props to all the grannies and gramps in our lives, she’s hoping to encourage other parents to accept a helping hand – and give up the very fraught and often isolated “doing it all”.

Olivia admits, “I don’t think I could do this whole parenting thing without them, in fact I know I couldn’t!’ and she suspects other families are in the same (excellent) boat.

The mum-of-two says recent criticism she’d received for including her children’s grandparents so wholeheartedly in her life, sparked this post on the important role grandparents play in her family’s life.

“You know it’s funny, I was once sent a screen shot of a message where a few people I knew were condemning me saying ‘the parent’s always have her kids’ like it was a bad thing?”

Perfect  parents?

Turning a negative into a positive, she admits the snark simply made her chuckle. But then she began to ponder why some followers might be calling her out on her grandparent game.

“I couldn’t help but wonder if perhaps they’d do the same if they could or perhaps they didn’t allow themselves to because they had bought into the stupid perception that mum’s had to do it all, want to do it all and be good at it!”

Doing it all – and being perfect – is simply not on her agenda, she says.

“I’m happy to admit that I’m not good at everything. How I do it may not be how someone else would, but you just do what works.”

Golly gosh! What a week it's been 🙈 We've all been sick, and to be honest I feel terrible because I let myself get so run down 🤦🏼‍♀️ I cannot seem to shake it and the poor kids and I are just in a circle of frustration with each other 🙄 My anxiety is through the roof lately, I feel like I'm letting everyone down left right and centre 😑 I just cannot wait to go away at the end of this week and just reset and recharge ☀️ An annoying but much needed reminded that you have to take care of yourself, otherwise your fucking useless to everyone 🙄 Although that tiny bit of sunshine today did make it all a little better 😝☀️ #sunfixeseverything . . Another beautiful shot by the talented @amyoliver 😘

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Nan and Pop life

Olivia’s kids see their grandparents almost every day as they live close by, and they even have their own bedrooms at their grandparents’ house. She says her daughters beg to go and stay there – and her parents beg to have the kids too! It’s a mutual admiration society that’s working for all involved.

“They don’t say it takes a village for nothing!!” Olivia writes.

The blogger mum also revealed the vital role her own grandparents played in her upbringing, and says she wants the same loving, extended family for her own kids.

“I grew up living with my grandparents as my mum was a single mum. Without them we would have been living in shitty housing and mum would have had to have worked round the clock just to make ends meet.”

“Isn’t such a bad thing?”

“To see my girls have the close relationship with theirs that they do just warms my heart,” Olivia posted, explaining that this family support helps her to work out of the home and be more independent and financially secure.

“I’m also forever grateful because without their help I couldn’t work, I couldn’t pursue my career or work towards our future the way I’d like!”

“I want my girls to see me be passionate and working hard! I want to save for their education, I want to contribute financially at home and I want to take my family on holidays and experience the world! … That’s a lot so perhaps taking help where I can isn’t such a bad thing?!”

This makes so much sense to us, and in an age where families seem to be more and more isolated, it’s refreshing to see families that have grandparents nearby, sharing their stories. If only everybody had access to loving extended family, right? It makes excellent sense to make the most of it, if you do.

We’re also loving the way Olivia turned some snarky trolling into a timely tribute to the Nans and Pops of the world! Nice move, mama! #yayforgrandparents indeed.

How we survived today 🙋🏼 The middle ones got a rotten cold 😪 She keeps telling me "mum, I'm not feeling very well" the poor thing 😖 It's all my fault too 😒 I was 'that' smug parent who rejoiced that we hadn't really been sick this year 🤒🤦🏼‍♀️ Seriously have I fucking learnt nothing 🙅🏼 Of course it's #viral so we just had to sit it out 🙄 I honestly think doctors just claim that when they don't know 🤔 I don't really cope well with people being sick either, I basically come through the house in a hazmat bio suit and perform an exorcism with Glen 20 😷 I then consume all the vitamin C I can find (until I remind myself that stuff had a laxative effect if you eat ten at once) 💩 And open up every window possible rain, hail or shine to 'air it out' 🌬🙋🏼 Although I'm not very hopefully, I've got that 'twinge' in one of my tonsils. I fear I'm about to go out in sympathy 😭🤧 #lordhavemercyonmysoul #spoketosoon #battondownthehatches

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You know makes me so happy when I see this photo 😄 is that I don’t think he’s ever changed the way he looks at me! Through an entire decade, through everything, he’s ever loved me more, even when I felt completely unlovable 😒 Living with anxiety is a bitch, I have days where I get so absolutely frazzled and worked up that I feel like the messages in my brain cannot even compute and my thoughts become so irrational that I feel like I can’t even see a second beyond that moment that appears to be crushing down on me 😳 it makes me seem crazy, it makes me say things that are absolutely ludicrous and I’m sure it makes me unbearable to be around 😑 But he’s always there 💕 I can only imagine that living with someone who has anxiety is sometimes just as hard, especially trying to understand something your not familiar with yourself and trying to help that person work through it! 😔 He’s seen me at my absolute most ugly times, when I’ve felt like I’m an absolute failure and ended up in tears in the floor screaming because I couldn’t stop the thoughts in my head 😖 He’ll always sit down next to me and help me get my thoughts out rationally and help me apply reason. He’s always there to let me know how amazing I’m doing, that I’m a good mother and remind me how much he loves me 💕 A totally soppy post I know, I just stumbled across this photo and it sparked that feel of appreciation I feel so much for him that I wanted to share 😏 I’m sure anyone in my situation would understand that it plagues you knowing how your mental health can sometimes effect others and you just want them to know truly how much you appreciate them even if you can’t say it at the time 😘 📸: @amyoliver cannot thank you enough for these photos 😘😘😘

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