Mum’s perfect response to troll who said stay-at-home-mums don’t work

When you post anything on the internet, you take the risk of some people – indeed, utter strangers – choosing to leave a rude comment. Well, this mum of twins has had enough, and has clapped back at a commenter who suggested that as a stay at home mother, she does not work.

They said what!?

Yep, you heard right. Anna Strode is a pregnant (and very fit) mum who posts photos and videos on her Instagram page, bubs2bikinis, sharing the different ways she manages to fit in some daily exercise while she also wrangles her 22 month old twin boys. (Frankly, I don’t know how she does it, I’m exhausted just writing that).

Image: Instagram/bubs2bikinis

But on a gorgeous photo she shared last week, one commenter took it upon themselves to assume that because Anna is a stay at home mum, she doesn’t do any work.

“Last week someone made a comment on my page and you know what, it upset me,” Anna begins. “It cut me pretty deep and while I do my best to remain positive – this hurt. It basically said ‘I wish I got to stay at home all day and exercise with my child, instead I have to go to work and do WORK.”

Understandably, the unfair comment really hit a nerve, as it does for any stay at home parent who has to field this kind of ignorance on a day to day basis. I mean, haven’t we figured out yet that being a stay at home parent is, in fact, very hard work?

Mum claps back

Anna decided to set the record straight, posting about ‘that’ comment and sharing some details about her day to show that her job as a stay at home parent to two busy boys is actually filled with work, thank you very much.

“Work?! You think I don’t WORK?! You think I sit at home all day and twiddle my thumbs? You think 2 x 22 month old toddlers just let me kick my feet up all day after I’ve done my morning workout? You think I’m beaming with energy as I grow a new baby and frantically do my best to keep up with twin boys that run rings around me?!”

But wait, she’s only just getting started.

“Just to break it down…” she continues. “I exercise for 20-30 minutes a day. Sometimes stopping 20 times throughout to fetch toys, bring food, stop hair pulling, break up fights over toys and some days, stopping 2 minutes in because it just ain’t happening that day!… 

 

Last week someone made a comment on my page and you know what, it upset me. It cut me pretty deep and while I do my best to remain positive – this hurt. It basically said ‘I wish I got to stay at home all day and exercise with my child, instead I have to go to work and do WORK…’ Work?! You think I don’t WORK?! You think I sit at home all day and twiddle my thumbs? You think 2 x 22 month old toddlers just let me kick my feet up all day after I’ve done my morning workout? You think I’m beaming with energy as I grow a new baby and frantically do my best to keep up with twin boys that run rings around me?! Just to break it down… I exercise for 20-30 minutes a day. Sometimes stopping 20 times throughout to fetch toys, bring food, stop hair pulling, break up fights over toys and some days, stopping 2 minutes in because it just ain’t happening that day! Other days we’re so busy or the boys are so CLINGY / CRANKY (eg: this photo sums it up) the best workout I can get in is some squats, push ups and tricep dips while they eat or while we practice new words, counting to 10 or all the body parts we’ve learnt. I certainly DON’T spend all day exercising. My days are spent changing shitty nappies, dealing with tantrums, playing cars and trucks, making food that gets thrown on the floor before it’s even tasted, walking the streets trying to get tired, grumpy children to nap, attempting to teach two little humans to SHARE instead of bite, pull hair, scratch or push each other, pushing swings, climbing up and down bloody forts that shouldn’t even be in kids playgrounds because they are so damn unsafe, singing the alphabet, going for adventures to keep the bubs happy, vacuuming 3 times a day because of all that food that I worked so hard to cook wasn’t even considered eating, oh and did I mention the constant battle of playing referee ALL day between two little cheeky monkeys that guess what DON’T ‘just play happily and entertain each other all day!’ For the record, TWINS don’t do that!!! Maybe when they’re older, yes! I hope so anyway ~ but for now, no – I literally for most of the part can’t take my eyes off them! Cont. in comments 👇👇

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Life with twin toddlers

Anna’s post goes on to give us a very real insight into life with twin boys, and frankly, it sounds like harder work than most jobs I can think of. 

“My days are spent changing shitty nappies, dealing with tantrums, playing cars and trucks, making food that gets thrown on the floor before it’s even tasted, walking the streets trying to get tired, grumpy children to nap, attempting to teach two little humans to SHARE instead of bite, pull hair, scratch or push each other, pushing swings, climbing up and down bloody forts that shouldn’t even be in kids playgrounds because they are so damn unsafe, singing the alphabet, going for adventures to keep the bubs happy, vacuuming 3 times a day because of all that food that I worked so hard to cook wasn’t even considered eating, oh and did I mention the constant battle of playing referee ALL day between two little cheeky monkeys that guess what DON’T ‘just play happily and entertain each other all day!”

Image: Instagram/bubs2bikinis

Her post has been liked over 5,000 times since she posted it last week – it seems she speaks for many of us when it comes to being a stay at home parent, with many giving her virtual high fives for being so honest and open about her reality.

“Yes!!! Preach girl preach!!!” said one. “I’ve been a SAHM for a month now with a 5 yo and a 5 mo old. It’s the hardest freaking thing I’ve ever done in my life!”

Others related on a more literal level: “I work full time to get a break from my 3 year old twin boys. They are relentless and by the time the weekend is coming to an end, I can’t wait to get back to work because I’m so exhausted.”

Every parent works hard

When all is said and done, we all work hard, don’t we? Whatever it is we’ve chosen to do with our time – whether it is working full-time at a job outside the home or foregoing a job to stay home and raise our children (a huge job in itself) – we all strive to do our best and work hard. 

It might be nice if, as a rule, we gave some thought to our comment before we post that negative thing online. As the saying goes, “Be kind – you never know who has a toddler at home”. Or two (!!) as the case may be. 

Keep up the great work, Anna! Those precious boys are certainly a handful, but you’re doing a beautiful job with them and you have a gorgeous family. Also, we are in awe of all that exercise!

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