Teary mum’s raw selfie: “I cannot hide the struggle that is breastfeeding”

Angela Burzo

A raw post from a woman struggling with newborn life – and the emotional and physical demands of breastfeeding in particular – has struck a relatable chord with other mums.

I love seeing all these beautiful women in their beautiful nursing clothes smiling down at their babes as they lovingly look up back at them hand in hand while breastfeeding away. That is not my reality, right now that is. This is real & as much as I want to stay strong and be the soldier I feel I can be I cannot hide the struggle that is BREASTFEEDING. Whether she is not latching on properly, whether I am not producing enough milk to keep up with her demand, whether my nipples might not be adequate, whether we confused her with having to give her a bottle after pumping….whatever it may be it has been an emotional & painful struggle. Today has been full of no naps, sucking and not eating, crying and frustrated parents. This photo depicts my reality of this Breastfeeding journey so far & that first latch & the pain I endure. Keeping it real. Thank you to all those women coming to my rescue even the times I didn't reach out. All your kind words & encouragement have been a blessing ๐Ÿ’• #nationalbreastfeedingweek #breastfeeding #ayleeburzo12daysold #fedisbest #inspire #keepingitreal #reality #thestruggleisreal #blessed #thankful #normalizebreastfeeding #reallife #realshit #breastmilk #breastfed #boobolution #nationalbreastfeedingmonth #nationalbreastfeedingawarenessmonth

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Keeping it real

Photographer Angela Burzo welcomed baby Aylee a few weeks ago and a recent Instagram post is a reminder that breastfeeding can be hard. Really, really hard. And that new mums need lots of support and love.

While for the lucky few, breastfeeding comes naturally, for many women wrangling correct attachment and a hungry baby is as much of a challenge as the actual birth.

Anticipating those much-talked-about “baby bubble” days following a newborn’s arrival, mums who are dealing with the almost-opposite – exhaustion and difficulty establishing breastfeeding – can feel distressed, disappointed, and even depressed.

It’s not always plain sailing and doing well often hinges on gaining the correct support (and plenty of  seemingly-elusive rest.)

A different story

While Angela was keen to honour mums who were managing to breastfeed without difficulty, she wanted to share the flip-side – those times when feeding a baby is really, really tough.

“I love seeing all these beautiful women in their beautiful nursing clothes smiling down at their babes as they lovingly look up back at them hand in hand while breastfeeding away. That is not my reality, right now,” she explained.

For Angela, the breastfeeding experience was peppered with second-guessing, insecurity and self doubt.

“This is real & as much as I want to stay strong and be the soldier I feel I can be I cannot hide the struggle that is BREASTFEEDING. Whether she is not latching on properly, whether I am not producing enough milk to keep up with her demand, whether my nipples might not be adequate, whether we confused her with having to give her a bottle after pumping.” the exhausted mum revealed.

“My reality”

This (fantastic!) mum was keen to share a less rose-coloured story, in the hope that another struggling mum might feel less alone in her own battle of the boob.

“Whatever it may be it has been an emotional and painful struggle. Today has been full of no naps, sucking and not eating, crying and frustrated parents. This photo depicts my reality of this breastfeeding journey so far and that first latch and the pain I endure. Keeping it real,” Angela wrote.

We, for one, are so glad she shared – and highlighted how important education, information and support for new mums is.


If you’re having trouble establishing breastfeeding, please have a chat to your Maternal Child Health Nurse or GP. It’s not always an easy transition and asking for help is the best thing for you and your baby. Don’t go it alone.

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